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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=q5au39VUpD0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n


I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I work in healthcare and I'm a manager. And sometimes I need to let people go because of their performance. For some people, it's not just about poor performance, but actually that their mistakes put some patients at risk. I try to give them enough chances and help them in any way I can, but for some employees, there's just no option but to let them go.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n


Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n


I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: I work in healthcare and I'm a manager. And sometimes I need to let people go because of their performance. For some people, it's not just about poor performance, but actually that their mistakes put some patients at risk. I try to give them enough chances and help them in any way I can, but for some employees, there's just no option but to let them go.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n


Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n


I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n


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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n

Please click \u2018setting\u2019 \"\" and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n

Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n

Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n

Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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