<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:57:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2786","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n
\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3568,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 13:10:28","post_content":"\n
Please click \u2018setting\u2019 and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q: I dated a guy at my school. He suddenly stopped seeing me without notice. Then he started dating a new girlfriend in a few days... I run into the two of them several times a day. I tried to ignore and avoid them each time. But the sight of them, their voices and laughter stay and haunt me. How can I find peace at heart? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I'm in the same school as my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"im-in-the-same-school-as-my-ex-boyfriend-and-his-new-girlfriend","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:07:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3568","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3472,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 23:31:50","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding. There have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. It just hasn't cleared up. Until when do I keep on trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-a-loved-one-and-there-was-a-misunderstanding","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:31:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3101,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:28:42","post_content":"\n
Q: As we live, we encounter problems such as love and betrayal. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should forgive the person regardless of what happened. I tried to understand that we should forgive. But then am I wrong? Animals don't forgive each other, Animals attack back if they were being betrayed. Am I wrong if I have no feeling, If I have no reason to forgive the person back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-have-no-reason-to-forgive-my-friend-who-betrayed-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:06:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3101","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3064,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 15:51:28","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I'm alone I'm generally at peace in my day to day life. But whenever I'm in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what's best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Find Peace in a Relationship","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-find-peace-in-a-relationship-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:24:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3064","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3056,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 13:35:39","post_content":"\n
Q: I have a hard time saying no to people. I end up making promises I don't want to keep. As a result, I hurt my own relationships with people. How can I effectively say no?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Basically, it is because you have a desire to look good to others. You want to be thought of as a good person by others, and you want to be praised by others. That\u2019s very egotistical. That\u2019s why you can\u2019t say no. In fact, even Jesus, who only tried to help people was crucified. Also, even the Buddha was criticized very often during his lifetime. As you can see, even great sages were criticized. Are you as good as the Buddha? If you are not, criticism is something that you should welcome. Do not be afraid of being criticized. You are being very greedy when you want to avoid being criticized. It\u2019s okay for you to say no to the things you can\u2019t do because ultimately you can\u2019t fulfill everybody\u2019s expectations. If you are able to do it, that\u2019s fine. You can go ahead and do it. But if you can\u2019t say no to those things that you don\u2019t want to do, it means you want to escape criticism. So I want you to welcome criticism and learn to live with it. When you are criticized, think about whether you went against the four precepts I spoke about which prohibits hurting others, stealing, sexual misconduct and lying. If you did go against any of them, you need to repent and never do it again. However, if you didn\u2019t, you don\u2019t have to worry about the criticism. It is not a sin for you not be able to help someone who asks for help. If you steal somebody else\u2019s property, that\u2019s a crime. Don\u2019t always try to be a perfect person. Just accept that you will often be criticized.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> Everybody who is born has the right to be happy. Whatever past experiences you have, you still have a right to be happy here and now. Buddha expressed it this way, \u201cEverybody can be a Buddha.\u201d And Jesus said. \u201cEverybody is the child of the loving God\u201d. So you have to realize how precious you are. You have to live happily. But if you choose to suffer, that\u2019s fine too. If those of you living here in the United States can\u2019t find happiness, it\u2019s not just your problem but a problem for those of us in the rest of the world. People around the world who are in unhappy think, \u201cIf I just make it to the U.S, I\u2019ll be happy.\u201d When they come to the United States and find that all of you are unhappy, they won\u2019t have any hope left. Your unhappiness brings despair to the rest of the world. Therefore, all of you here should be happy. I wish happiness to all of you.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Effectively Say “No”?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-effectively-say-no","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:25:28","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:25:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3056","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2786,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 01:42:05","post_content":"\n
Q: I find that when I\u2019m alone I\u2019m generally at peace, you know, in my day to day life. But whenever I\u2019m in a relationship, I start to stress and think is this person what\u2019s best for me. Is this person on my path, so to speak. I just want to know how to have more peaceful and connected relationship and get away from these kinds of thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/4d8b86b5871e76a0fc1078eb9b44dbc1-1.jpg\")
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