If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I work in healthcare and I'm a manager. And sometimes I need to let people go because of their performance. For some people, it's not just about poor performance, but actually that their mistakes put some patients at risk. I try to give them enough chances and help them in any way I can, but for some employees, there's just no option but to let them go.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I work in healthcare and I'm a manager. And sometimes I need to let people go because of their performance. For some people, it's not just about poor performance, but actually that their mistakes put some patients at risk. I try to give them enough chances and help them in any way I can, but for some employees, there's just no option but to let them go.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Knowing their personal situations, I feel very bad about letting them go and also scared because recently in the US there was a FedEx employee, who after getting laid off, went back to the office and killed people.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

I just want to ask you how can I do my job and handle laying off employees better?<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: If your role as a manager requires you to fire some people then either you continue working at your job or quit and change jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to continue your job for whatever reasons then you must accept the responsibility that comes with it and be able to deal with it. If your job involves firing employees, obviously there's always a risk of them being angry at you which sometimes might lead to attacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some ways it is like voluntarily joining the army. During peacetime it is a good job because you don't have to risk your life, but if there's a war, you have to put your life at risk. Nevertheless, it\u2019s a choice you're making and there's no other way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make the choice to stay on, there may be small things you can do to lower the risk. For instance, instead of firing somebody with harsh words, try to explain this is your role. Say that you understand the person and that although this is not what you want to do but you have to do it because it's your job. And that you are also an employee at the organization and that you also have to make a living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell them as a person it hurts you to do this, but because you have to fulfill your role you have no choice but to do this and that you are sorry. Then with those words you may decrease your risk a little. Obviously that person will still be fired and still be angry, but it\u2019s better than kicking them out with harsh criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while understanding other people\u2019s pain and feeling sorry about it, you should still be able to do your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what the consequences you face because of your choice you should be able to handle it. It is not a matter of which way is better. It is to realize that with every choice comes responsibility and consequences. And you should be aware of those before you make a choice. It is difficult but if you try to avoid responsibility it becomes a source of suffering. There's always a result based on a cause. If you provided the cause then you should be able to accept the result.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you are in that position then there is a risk for you to be criticized. And a higher risk for you to be hated. But if you don't like it, change your job, but if there are the reasons to stay on then be prepared to handle the consequences.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Laying Off My Employees Is Stressful","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University on Oct. 8, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"laying-off-my-employees-is-stressful","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-16 19:44:45","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-17 00:44:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13846","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13753,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-10-02 20:55:22","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:22","post_content":"\n

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Q: I believe that human desire to be successful is unlimited. And I understand why sometimes people around you expect so much from you, especially your mentors, your friends or your family. I understand why they expect the best from you and they want you to be happy. But sometimes because of this expectation I feel that I am being chased by life. I want to hear your opinion about how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> So when you said that your family has high expectations of you that's their issue. You can't interfere with their expectations of you because it's their issue. At the same time you can't fulfill all their expectations. The same goes for yourself. You can't get everything you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say everybody gets what they want. All the students want to go to a good university but they don't want to study. If everybody gets into good colleges without studying, how is that going to work? If everybody wants to date and marry a good looking person, how difficult is the situation going to be? If everybody who wants to become a president becomes the president how difficult would that be? If everybody wants to live 500 years, a thousand years, how difficult would life be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can't be done. If it could be done, it would destroy the world. And because it can't be done, we have more or less some kind of a balance in life.The environmental issues we are facing now are the results of humans acting on greed and desire too much. So getting everything you want in life isn't necessarily a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If you want to to achieve something you can either keep trying or quit. Feeling stressed out over things you want to achieve but failing to do so is because of greed. Stress comes from having a high expectation but not wanting to put in a requisite effort. So it's very easy to distinguish between impure and pure desires. If you suffer because your desire wasn't fulfilled then that is the result of your greed. However, if you are able to say, \"Oh that didn't work, how about if I try it this way? Hmm, that didn't work either. Let's try this way.\" If you keep such an investigative mind, failure doesn't cost you suffering, because you are driven by genuinely wanting to achieve that goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So there should be no relationship between you suffering emotionally and you not achieving something you want. If other's expectations or your own expectations are causing you stress and suffering that\u2019s happening because of your greed. And greed leads to despair and disappointment. That is why we teach to let go of your greed.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Others’ Expectation Stresses Me Out","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"others-expectation-stresses-me-out","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-02 20:55:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-03 01:55:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13753","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3691,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 00:31:52","post_content":"\n

Q: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way kind of allures people to spend money o show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. So I was wondering about how I should view my career. <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Should I View My Career ?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-should-i-view-my-career","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 00:39:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3691","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3587,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-27 22:51:31","post_content":"\n

Q: My question is about non-attachment and goals in life. I have noticed that having goals in relationship or career can bring a lot of stress. For example, when I was applying to do my exchange in Korea, I was worried something might go wrong with my application and I have a lot of stress. And I learned that not being attached to things could bring happiness and less stress but I still think I still have to have some goals that I want to achieve in my life. So how would it be possible to combine these two things in my everyday life?<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Have Goals in Life without Getting Attached?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-have-goals-in-life-without-getting-attached","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:00:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3587","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-26 22:15:51","post_content":"\n

Q: I am 30 years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. What happened recently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don't like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset that I am going to quit, then I don't like the job anymore... So now I am in the stage that I don't want to work for the company, I don't want to go out. I found my job I loved, but now I hate it, and now I am lost. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"I Don\u2019t Like My Company Anymore","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"i-dont-like-my-company-anymore","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 01:41:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3097,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 18:14:55","post_content":"\n

Q: My question today is how to make my decision. Should I pursue my dream or stay in the current job that I have? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Should I Pursue My Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"should-i-pursue-my-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:09:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3097","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3074,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-24 16:47:45","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a medical doctor in Korea. Doctors' mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death. How can I manage it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-manage-mistakes-as-a-medical-doctor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 02:19:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3074","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2762,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:48:13","post_content":"\n

Q: I am a recent graduate of Harvard. I just graduated in May. I am leaving tomorrow for England to do a master\u2019s program. I want to ask you about uncertainty and how to deal with uncertainty. So, for example, basically, the reason I am doing this master\u2019s program is because I want to see if I want to study for a Ph.D. And basically, because the program is a year, if I want to do a Ph.D. next year, I need to decide in the next month. Let\u2019s say, whether or not I want to do it, do applications, to get stuff, you know, basically to get the process go. But I can\u2019t really make that decision until I go and see how this next program is going to be. The way that I deal with uncertainty in these kinds of situations right now is to think about the time frame. How much time that I have to deal with it, and really take everything day by day and see how things evolve. So focus more on the present and how things come instead of resigning myself to something that just kind of could say \u2018I am going to do this in the future\u2019. But I wanted to see what you might have to say about dealing with uncertainty in these kinds of situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MEDV19-0nNs\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"How to Deal with Uncertainty","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-to-deal-with-uncertainty","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:59:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2762","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2678,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:24:04","post_content":"\n

Please click 'setting' and change the language mode to English.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: I am a 4th grade student and my dream is to become a scientist that makes weapons. But I like to play games. Scientists should like to do science experiments. But I like playing games. What should I do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Pv5rUURLM10\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"My Dream Is to Be a Scientist, but I Enjoy Games Too Much. What Can I Do? (English Subtitle)","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-dream-is-to-be-a-scientist-but-i-enjoy-games-too-much-what-can-i-do","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:09:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2678","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2456,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-15 02:57:48","post_content":"\n

Q: I've recently travelled to Korea for the fourth time, lived in Korea for the fourth time in my life. It's crossed my mind that I might want to move there permanently and live there. And initially that brought up some fear in me and I've been working on unpacking this fear. I was just thinking about it, looking into the future and writing down what excites me about this prospect versus what is making me anxious...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","post_title":"Making a big decision in my life","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"making-a-big-decision-in-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:16:49","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2456","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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