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Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
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Anyone can love others
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
love is helping others.
Anyone can love others
when things are good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> People say that when we perform many good deeds, we will either be blessed with good fortune or be born into a better world in the next life. However, regardless of how many good deeds we have done, the outcome will differ depending on our mental attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, people want to be appreciated and praised for their good deeds. But, such an attitude is likely to leave them disappointed and betrayed when their good deeds are not rewarded or appreciated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a family, there are many instances in which mothers, who raised their children with unconditional love, are saddened when their grown-up children fail to appreciate their hard work. They may become depressed and think to themselves, \u201cIt\u2019s useless to raise children.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, there are many instances in which people who devoted their time and energy to volunteer work become miserable because they feel they are not receiving the recognition they deserve. We sometimes encounter people, working for the welfare of others by volunteering their time, giving alms, and working in civic groups, who are unhappy. This is because they are kind of disappointed that, although they devoted themselves to benefit others, the world does not appreciate their efforts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What these people need to do is to let go of the thought that they are doing good deeds while doing them. In The Diamond Sutra, there is a passage that goes \u201cBodhisattvas liberate all unenlightened beings from suffering, yet they don\u2019t have the notion of doing so.\u201d This means that if bodhisattvas have the notion that they are liberating unenlightened beings from suffering, they themselves will fall into suffering, and those who do so cannot be regarded as bodhisattvas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bodhisattvas can justly be born in Heaven in consideration of the number of good deeds they have done, but they have made an aspiration rather enter Hell in order to help to suffer unenlightened beings. Bodhisattvas take control of their own lives, while unenlightened beings are controlled by their karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why are unenlightened beings controlled by their karma? Unenlightened beings expect to receive without giving and want to be understood without understanding others. Thus, they live as slaves rather than as masters of their own lives because they are always bound to others. However, bodhisattvas help others without expecting anything in return, so it doesn't matter whether their deeds are appreciated or not. Bodhisattvas are free of external conditions, and therefore, they are the masters of their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among Korean classics, there is a story of two brothers, \u201cHeungbu and Nolbu.\u201d Each of them fixed the broken leg of a swallow, but the outcomes were completely different. Heungbu fixed a swallow\u2019s legs simply because he felt sorry for the bird. He did not expect anything for his good deed, but he was rewarded with a fortune. Nolbu, on the other hand, broke a bird's leg on purpose and fixed it with the aim of getting a fortune, but he was hit with misfortune instead. This is to say, when you don\u2019t expect anything, you will be happy whether you get a reward or not. If you expect a reward, however, the seeds of disappointment and resentment will be sown in your heart<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not easy for us to have the heart of a bodhisattva who does not expect any rewards. However, we must constantly practice introspection to see whether we expect or desire anything in return for our good deeds. If our introspection reveals that we do, we must let go of our expectations, so that we can be happy simply with the act of giving. This is giving alms in its true sense. Thus, both the giver and the receiver will become free, and giving alms will beget genuine good fortune.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Giving Alms Without Expectation Of Reward","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 16:20:25","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 21:20:25","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17847","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16767,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-27 13:50:10","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-27 18:50:10","post_content":"\n

When there are difficulties,
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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Love is","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"love-is","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:16:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:16:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16767","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14005,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-10-27 11:00:18","post_date_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:18","post_content":"\n

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Being kind and trying to understand others will benefit you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel uneasy, think about why you feel that way. It\u2019s probably because you\u2019re struggling to get something from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because you want to be loved, get help, be understood, be complimented, or rely on others, you will feel pain if you don\u2019t receive what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you view yourself as a master and think, \u201cI am not a beggar, but a master. Why would I need to get anything from others? I would rather give,\u201d you will no longer feel uneasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Benefit of Giving","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"benefit-of-giving","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-10-27 11:00:20","post_modified_gmt":"2022-10-27 16:00:20","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14005","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":13552,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2022-09-07 08:33:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-09-07 13:33:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: To what extent do you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that the human body can become a separate entity to your mind? And if that is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> They act in concert and they influence each other. They also act separately. For example, if you are hungry and you don't eat then you suffer; that is the body affecting the mind. But despite being hungry if you choose to go on hungry, then that might not lead to suffering. So you might be hungry, but not necessarily suffer because of it. Then at that point you choose not to be affected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People are comprised of three different things. One is of physical material. We are governed by the laws of physics and material because we are made of material. Somebody push us off an airplane, we fall. Because we have mass we are affected by gravity. Just because I am a Buddhist monk, it doesn't mean I can fly. Just because you are a good person, it doesn't mean you don\u2019t fall. Because we are made of material we are governed by gravity. And if we put ourselves on fire then we burn. And that is a physical manifestation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But based on the material collection there is a phenomena called life. Life is based on material but it is a little different than just the material. When you put this cup on the floor it does not get up and come back on the table by itself. It does not have the ability to go against gravity by itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a life based on material, for example, a rabbit can jump up here, why? Because there\u2019s food here, and it can come up here and eat. So life is based on material but it goes beyond just the phenomena of the material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So where does this life function come from? If you observe material, if you change its arrangement, then the nature of how that material behaves changes. For example, let's suppose there are 20,000 parts to a car. From a material perspective, whether the parts are assembled into a car or not, they are identical. But only when you assemble the parts together according to a certain blueprint, does the car move, make a noise or make a light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When the materials are put together according to a blueprint called the genes, it creates a phenomena called life that is not intrinsic to the material alone. All life is based on material. But despite that it is different from material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Among life functions there is also something called a mental phenomena.Let\u2019s examine this. For example, a pig when it\u2019s hungry it eats. It does not think of sharing its food with others. But once it's full it doesn't care who eats its food. But a human being, even though he is hungry, he knows how to share with others. By the same token, even though he may be full, he also has ability to hold food and not share with others who are hungry. That mental phenomena does not exist in animals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This mental phenomena is something that goes beyond animals. The ability to share is good. The thing that even animals won\u2019t do, to hold food despite others being hungry is bad. So the concept of good and evil is a mental phenomena. There is no good or evil judgment in nature. Just because a tiger eats a rabbit that is not an evil thing. It's not evil for a snake to feed on a frog. That's the baseline value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the concept of good or evil is based on that baseline. If you do something that goes against the natural baseline then you go to hell. If you do something that goes beyond the natural baseline then you go to heaven. I am not saying that heaven and hell exist. That is a concept that we built around the concept of Good and Evil. That goes beyond just biology. It is another level of phenomena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all this higher mental phenomena derives originally from the material. We need a hardware to install a software but a software cannot exist by itself. But that doesn't mean that the software is always impacted by the hardware. So the mental phenomena does have the ability to impact your life functions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are comprised of these three different levels of existence or phenomena combined. So you can't exist without material, but it cannot be fully understood by material only. You can't analyze the mental phenomena by denying the material basis. But you cannot fully understand it using only material basis either. So you have to have a systemic view of the life and see it holistically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Religion has an ingrained issue because it only speaks to the mental phenomena. Scientists also make the similar mistake on the other spectrum by thinking that everything can be reduced to the material and trying to understand the world that way. So you have to look at it as a system.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Can Body And Mind Be Separated?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"can-body-and-mind-be-separated","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-18 19:29:04","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-19 00:29:04","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=13552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12577,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-05-26 22:27:56","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-27 03:27:56","post_content":"\n


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Q: I have dated three girls so far. But when I look back none of them satisfied me. I can say I like them but I don't think I love them at all. So I want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody. Also, I don't have a girlfriend now, but if I find one in the future, how do I love her with all my heart?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>Understand her. Only understanding is love. Liking someone could be greed or an obsession, because if you like somebody but she does not like you and if you continue liking her; to her that becomes suffering. That is you can make her suffer. That's not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost you have to understand her. If you truly want to love her try to understand what she wants. Don't think of your perspective, your needs. And if you do that, that doesn't bring about any hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Common perception of love centers around the notion, \"Because I like you, you must like me in return,\" or \"I like you this much, but how come you only like me this much.\" Then this transaction is not fair. That's a transaction. That\u2019s a horse trade. That is not love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop engaging in trade. Stop engaging in calculations. You are free to like anybody you want, but don't demand that she like you in return. Then there's no side effects to that. It's just emotion that's propelling you to like somebody and you are free to do so. That\u2019s making you happy. But don't mistake that for love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is what kind of help are you to her. So that's why it's important for you to understand her. That's why I said before, without understanding love can turn violent. How much do we make people suffer in the name of love? And how much war do we engage in the name of peace? That's a contradiction. That only happens because that is a love without understanding.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What's The Difference Between Like And Love?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"whats-the-difference-between-like-and-love","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-07-06 14:44:18","post_modified_gmt":"2022-07-06 19:44:18","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12577","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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