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Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"How can I meditate better in a distractive environment?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-meditate-better-in-a-distractive-environment","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-05-18 20:47:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-05-19 01:47:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14591","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":3},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"How can I meditate better in a distractive environment?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-meditate-better-in-a-distractive-environment","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-05-18 20:47:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-05-19 01:47:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14591","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":3},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are Lonely Not Because We Love More But Because We Expect More","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-lonely-not-because-we-love-more-but-because-we-expect-more","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:57:15","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:57:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15513","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15531,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-21 12:58:13","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-21 17:58:13","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Everything That Has Already Happened Is Always For The Best","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"everything-that-has-already-happened-is-always-for-the-best","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:09:27","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:09:27","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15516","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15534,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-28 13:12:20","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-28 18:12:20","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Should I feel that meditation is helping me improve my life?\ufffc","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-i-feel-that-meditation-is-helping-me-improve-my-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:18:33","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:18:33","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15534","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15513,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-27 11:47:51","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-27 16:47:51","post_content":"\n


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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is the purpose of meditation to solve a problem by coming up with a good idea?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-the-purpose-of-meditation-to-solve-a-problem-by-coming-up-with-a-good-idea","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 13:12:00","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 18:12:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15531","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15510,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-20 11:43:04","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-20 16:43:04","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15500,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 11:06:57","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:06:57","post_content":"\n


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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is it possible to erase or lessen our karma in this lifetime?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-possible-to-erase-or-lessen-our-karma-in-this-lifetime","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:57:30","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:57:30","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15526","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15507,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-13 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-13 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A sunny day can suddenly turn into a cloudy day and innocent drops of rain can turn into a torrential downpour in a matter of seconds. Similarly, a thunderstorm accompanied by strong winds and lightning can clear up right away. Then, there are grey and gloomy days when the sky remains overcast all day long and feels like it could begin to rain at any minute. Just as the weather is unpredictable, our lives are also full of unexpected events. Even though people only thought of living happily ever after with their spouses when they first got married, they may unexpectedly end up getting divorced. When awaiting the birth of their child, most parents think their child will be obedient and smart. However, the actual experience of raising a child can be quite different from what they had imagined. For example, the child might not be a good student and could get himself into trouble, and as a result, he can become the source of a big headache for the parents. Likewise, when starting a business, people envision making a lot of money. However, there are instances in which not only do their business fail to bring in any income but end up making themselves and even their families and their relatives go bankrupt. Also, we can be let go at a moment\u2019s notice from a job that we thought we would keep until we retire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will simply praying for your life to be smooth sailing, without any hardships, make it possible for you to have such lives? How about praying that our husbands come home early from work, our wives are more loving, our children excel in school, and people appreciate us? Do you think such prayers will solve the problems in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we always wish that our lives turn out the way we want, our happiness and unhappiness depend on what happens in our lives. We believe happiness and freedom are about getting money when we want it, having someone walk into our lives when we want to date, and having someone walk out of our lives when we no longer want the relationship. However, to our dismay, not everything in our lives turns out the way we had hoped. Because some things work out while others don\u2019t, we are left to alternate between happiness and unhappiness. Thus, life is said to be a combination of both happiness and unhappiness. Repeatedly swinging back and forth between happiness and unhappiness can be compared to Samsara, the eternal cycle of birth, death, and rebirth. We are happy one moment, but the very next moment, we are unhappy. We alternate between the two emotional states depending on whether we have our way or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, happiness from good things that happen to us and unhappiness from bad things that happen come always hand in hand. This kind of happiness cannot be considered true happiness. Feeling happy because things turned out the way we wanted is similar to feeling high from drugs, so we need to keep on taking drugs in order to feel happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please, examine carefully what you believed were happy and unhappy moments in your lives. Some things may seem bad and others may seem good to you now. However, after time passes, you may realize that something that you thought was bad actually ended up benefiting you while something that you believed to be good ended up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are aware of this, your emotions don\u2019t fluctuate as much as before because you are not as attached to happiness and you suffer less from unhappiness. Whereas you used to immediately become happy by the good things and quickly fall into unhappiness by the bad things that happened to you, now you are able to discern that what may seem bad are not necessarily bad and what may seem good are not necessarily good either. Then, you won\u2019t be as influenced by the external conditions as before, so you will be less likely to be overly happy or unnecessarily sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured and was forced to live in a prison for a few months. I was devastated at the time, but the experience gave me valuable insights I could not have gained anywhere else and has helped me with my practice and my dharma talks. Additionally, the experience has helped me tremendously in understanding the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To give you an example, my attitude towards inmates has drastically changed after the experience of living in the prison myself. Before, I would have lectured to them saying something along the lines of \u201cAlthough you have committed crimes, you can redeem yourselves if you repent now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, during my time in prison, I was able to gain an insight into the minds of the inmates. Since I was there for violating the law on assembly and demonstration, I was categorized as a political prisoner. However, as a punishment for being uncooperative during interrogation, I was placed in a jail cell with 12 other inmates. These inmates were detained for misdemeanors, but every one of them claimed they were innocent. All of them felt that they were being unjustly punished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I were to visit a prison today and give a dharma talk to the inmates, the first thing I would say to them is \u201cLife is not fair, right?\u201d This empathetic phrase will enable me to instantly create an emotional connection with them. This is not the kind of knowledge you can get from reading books but one that you can only get from the actual experience of living in a prison and spending time with the inmates. Undoubtedly, it was very difficult to endure at the time, but it proved to be an excellent opportunity for me to learn many things. From this perspective, even the things we label as unfortunate events in our lives are not necessarily bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Accumulating diverse life experiences is what helps us mature as we get older. When we are young, even a trivial incident can reduce us to tears and make us feel as if it were the end of the world. However, in hindsight, we realize that the incident was actually a blessing in disguise. For instance, when someone breaks up with you, it made you despair and feel like your life was over. Later, however, you realize that the experience has enabled you to become a better judge of character and to gain an insight into the psychology of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a good idea to regard everything that has happened to you in a positive light. After all, having a negative perspective won\u2019t change what has already happened in the past. I am not suggesting that you should be overly optimistic and have a blind faith that everything will turn out well, no matter what. Rather, your mindset should be \u201cEverything that has already happened is always for the best.\u201d This way, any situation you find yourself in can be a learning opportunity, which will enable you to gain abundant experience. As a result, you will be able to impart some words of wisdom to others.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Q: \"I was struck by a sudden realization while looking at the photos of cosmos and chrysanthemums, which my husband took as a hobby. As it dawned on me that my husband has his own life apart from me while I have no life of my own, I was seized with envy and jealousy. It had never bothered me even when my husband took money or ran off somewhere, but ever since I saw his photos of flowers last fall, I have been wanting to let go of my love for my husband.\u201d<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Generally speaking, the honeymoon phase of a marriage ends in about a year, and the feelings of love tend to subside a little. However, there was a woman who confessed to me that her heart still races and she feels tense whenever she sees her husband even after 23 years of being married to him. She said that just looking at her husband makes her feel happy, but at the same time, she gets distressed and hates herself for being so obsessed with him all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> She asked me to teach her how to love her husband less and instead love herself more so that she can be free. However, did she want to become free just because she didn\u2019t like loving her husband so much? If we wish to be loved by others rather than love others, our wish will never be fulfilled, so we will always be unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wise person knows that he needs to love first in order to be loved and that he needs to give compliments to others first in order to receive compliments. Since he always initiates giving love and compliments to others, he receives love and praises from others in return. As a result, he will experience more happiness than unhappiness in life, but he still won\u2019t be able to attain complete happiness. That\u2019s because there is a possibility that others may not reciprocate the love he gives them. Then, what do we need to do to experience complete happiness? We should only give without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a big difference between the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us after we have extended our help to them and the disappointment we feel when others don\u2019t help us because we didn\u2019t help them in the first place. We feel much more disappointed when others refuse to help us after we have helped them. A person who expects to receive as much as he gives will be fine as long as he receives most of what he gives. However, when he doesn\u2019t get anything in return, he will be much more unhappy than those who never give anything in the first place. That\u2019s why love can be regarded as the seed of hatred. Those who don\u2019t love each other never end up hating each other, but unfortunately those who love each other can sometimes become bitter enemies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expectations we have of others is what makes us resent our parents who gave birth to us and raised us, friends who were close to us, and those we were once deeply fond of. We say we love someone, but strictly speaking, we seek happiness in being loved. There is an implicit expectation that we want to receive as much love as we give. There is a higher probability that you will receive love if you give love. However, in case your love is not returned, you will end up suffering with the feeling of betrayal. Inevitably, when love is used as a means of obtaining something, it will turn into disappointment and hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no difference between the fondness your husband has for cosmos and the affection you have for your husband. Then, why is it that the husband who likes cosmos is not unhappy while the wife who likes her husband is so unhappy? The husband does not demand the cosmos to love him back just because he loves it. However, the wife demands that her husband return her love since she loves him. This is the reason that she is miserable. The fact that she asserts, \u201cThe problem is that I love him too much. From now on, I won\u2019t love him anymore.\u201d shows that she doesn\u2019t see the essence of her dilemma. Her husband\u2019s fondness for cosmos and her affection for her husband are the same. However, the difference in the two situations is that the wife demands her husband to reciprocate her love, and when her demand is not met, she becomes disappointed. This is why she feels miserable and thinks, \u201cShould I keep loving him when it\u2019s so one-sided?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She should just love him. Her way of thinking is as ludicrous as hiking Mountain Sorak five or six times and complaining that she won\u2019t go there anymore because Mountain Sorak never tells her that it loves her. Does it make sense for her to be dependent on the response from Mountain Sorak? Her husband never thinks, \u201cShould I discontinue to like cosmos?\u201d Therefore, her problem will be resolved once she lets go of her expectation of her husband to return her love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The husband will be happy that his wife loves him, but if her love borders on obsession, he could get annoyed. What would happen if a grandmother prepares a meal for her grandchild and keeps putting food into his mouth saying, \u201cPlease, try this. Now, try this\u201d? Even though the child is aware of his grandmother\u2019s love for him, he will eventually refuse to have meals with her if she does that every time he visits her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is nothing wrong with the woman\u2019s loving her husband. But, she should realize that she loves him for her own sake, not for the sake of her husband. The reason she wants to cook delicious food for her husband is that she wants to do it, so she should not expect him to be grateful and enjoy the food as much as she would like him to. Thus, her new mindset should be, \u201cJust as I\u2019m glad that I am able to love flowers, I\u2019m so happy that I\u2019ve got a husband to love. I\u2019m grateful to him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wife is someone who can\u2019t stand being without her husband. It\u2019s not because of the husband but because she needs to have someone to love but doesn\u2019t have anyone else to love. The reason she has a hard time when the husband is away is that she misses him so much. Therefore, instead resolving to stop loving him, she should pray, \u201cI\u2019m grateful that I have a husband to love.\u201d Then, she will be able to moderate her emotions and become relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We feel instantly happy when we look at the ocean. When I look at the ocean, is it the ocean that\u2019s happy or is it I? It\u2019s I who feel happy. We feel happy not because the ocean likes us but because we like the ocean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mountain is just a mountain, the ocean is just an ocean, and the sky is just a sky. Because we like them just for what they are without wanting anything in return, we feel good and happy. When we love someone without wanting anything in return, even if that person doesn\u2019t love us, we are happy enough just being able to look at him. Try liking someone or something without expecting anything in return. Just as we love the ocean and enjoy the mountains.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P<\/strong>: Everything in this world changes. Therefore, dwelling in the past and clinging to the way things used to be will cause pain and anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s only natural that even the close friend from childhood have a hard time staying in touch with one another as time passes because they become busy with their own lives. As a result, when they get together, they don\u2019t feel as close as they used to in the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They will always be friends, but they won\u2019t be as close as they were when they were young. This is a natural occurrence among friends as they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recently realized that I don\u2019t have a single friend with whom I can relax and have a drink when I want to. I feel awkward around one friend for no particular reason, I get a headache when I am with another friend because he is so stubborn, and I get tired and irritated by yet another friend of mine because he never compromises with anybody. It feels as though my circle of friends is dwindling and I only have a few genuine friends left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the past, when I visited my hometown, about five friends would get together with me. Nowadays, when I go home, only one or two friends make an effort to see me. Even at that, I don\u2019t think they\u2019re excited to see me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession about friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:47:24","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:47:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15510","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15526,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-14 12:49:05","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-14 17:49:05","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: There was a businessman who achieved great success after years of hard work. Unfortunately, however, the man fell ill before he could finally enjoy the fruits of his labor. He was diagnosed with final stage cancer and was informed that he only had one year left to live. Upon hearing the sad news, his friends visited him at the hospital to comfort him and give him their support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As fate would have it, one of the friends who was returning home after visiting him at the hospital got into a car accident and was killed on the spot. From the perspective of the friend who lost his life in the car accident, he had felt sorry for his friend who had only one year to live and consoled him when he himself actually had only one day to live. The moral of the story is that we really don\u2019t know what will happen to us in the very next second. While you are worried about someone else\u2019s life, you could be facing your own death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know that everyone will ultimately die but, subconsciously, we go through life as if we are going to live forever. Only when we are faced with our own death do we finally realize that life is not infinite and accept our immortality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my first encounter with death when I was in middle school. My housemate fell while riding the bicycle, and he died instantly when he hit his head on a small rock. This accident was a great shock to me. My friend who was perfectly fine one minute was dead the next minute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Incidentally, during my adolescent years, I was quite sickly. Even running a 100 meter dash would leave me with blue spots all over my body and make me faint. In addition to being sickly, the monk who ordained me told my mother that I would die young, so his words always stayed in my mind. He did not say how young I would die, but I figured I would live to about 40 years old. However, his remark served not as a fear but as a great motivation that enabled me to apply myself fully to everything I did in my life because I was determined to make the most of my given time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since I believed that I may only live to be in my 40\u2019s, while most people live to be in their 70\u2019s and 80\u2019s, I was determined to live my life with twice or three times the intensity of other people. I pushed myself so hard that I fainted from physical exhaustion several times. However, after I passed the age of 40, I felt relieved that I had already lived beyond my life expectancy and was no longer anxious. Now, I feel as though my life beyond the age 40 is a gift I didn\u2019t expect to have. Because I am still alive, I work hard, but even if I were to suddenly die, I wouldn\u2019t feel bad at all. That\u2019s why, I don\u2019t particularly have regrets about any unrealized goals or much worries in life. I always thought I would not live beyond the age of 40, but ever since I passed that age and have continued to live, I was able to approach life with ease and became more relaxed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and has only one year to live, the common mistake that the patient and the people around him make is believing that having only one year to live causes the suffering. However, dwelling on the thought that he has only one year to live is what causes the suffering and makes him waste the precious time left in his life. If you only have a year to live, instead of worrying about dying, live every day to its fullest with 10 times the intensity of others. Spend your days paying back to others anything you may owe, pay compliments to those you never did before, and be generous to those in need with the things you held onto so tightly as if you would live forever. If you can live happily in this manner for a year, it will be the best way to live the remaining days of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t think of much wasting away today because we believe we will live forever, but death may come at any moment. Therefore, if we do our best as if today were the last day of our lives, we can live a life without regrets even if we died today.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"Living A Life That You Won\u2019t Regret Even If You Died Tomorrow","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"living-a-life-that-you-wont-regret-even-if-you-died-tomorrow-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:42:45","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:42:45","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15507","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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Q: When I am about to go to work in the morning, I am so distressed that I want to cry. I break down into tears at work, feel pathetic, and I feel a pressure on my chest when returning home. I want to quit my job, but everyone around me says to hold out because it\u2019s hard to enter a major company like this, especially since it is so difficult to get a job these days. And it\u2019s a kind of job where women can work for a long time as well. But going every day feels so painful I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> Someone says to a friend who doesn\u2019t smoke, \u201cThis cigarette is nice. Try one.\u201d The friend tries it, but it gives him a stinging sensation in his throat and makes him cry. Nevertheless, he keeps trying it because his friend dares him to smoke. He keeps smoking, shedding tears, having coughing fits. He could just quit, but he doesn\u2019t want to waste the cigarette because his friend tells him that it is a really good one. He keeps smoking although it makes his throat burn because he just doesn\u2019t want to put it out. What a foolish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A similar thing happens when people try to stop you from quitting your job because it is a great job. It doesn\u2019t matter how great it is if you don\u2019t want it. If you are too stressed, then you should quit. It is your life. Why care about the opinions of others? Go to work tomorrow morning and say \u201cgoodbye.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot do so, try to think, \u201cWhy can\u2019t I give it up?\u201d If it is because of money, you could earn money doing something like a housekeeping job. You think being a housekeeper would not help you save face? How about a janitor? Still not enough? Then think about other jobs you could do, and examine yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Afterward, if you think that keeping this job is better than being a housekeeper or a cleaning lady, then just keep doing what you are doing. If you think, however, \u201cI don\u2019t want this even if it pays me millions and treats me well,\u201d then there is no need to linger. You don\u2019t need to cry. Crying means that you don\u2019t want the job, yet you don\u2019t want to waste the opportunity either. The central issue here is greed. That is what you need to put down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you cannot choose either way, come to Mungyeong. We have a program in which you can meditate in seclusion for 100 days. Try living as a monk for 100 days. Get up at dawn to pray, clean, wash dishes and work all day. When you go to bed exhausted at night, another day will begin in no time. Living like this may open your eyes and give you wisdom. If 100 days is not enough, then try another 100 days. If that is still not enough, try another 100 days. One year may open your eyes, and three years may change your entire perception of life. Afraid to fall three years behind? Living like this for three years will actually save you much more time than wandering about your entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not able to say \u201cgoodbye\u201d to your job, then make yourself change your mind. Compare your job to a day of labor on construction sites. Go to work thinking, \u201cI\u2019ll make $70 today whereas I\u2019d make only $50 doing a construction job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You are the host of your life. No one else is responsible for it. Live your life making your own decisions instead of letting others control it for you. If you cannot make a decision, toss a coin. If it comes up heads, quit; if it comes up tails, keep your job. It is not worth worrying so much over life. Just live it. I don\u2019t mean that you should live carelessly. Live with ease, that\u2019s all. Life is very simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we feel, then, that life and the world are so complicated? Because your head is cluttered, not the world. Try to abandon your greed and make simple decisions. You\u2019ll keep your head clear and simple, too.<\/gwmw><\/p>\n","post_title":"My Job Distresses Me So Much It Makes Me Cry","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-job-distresses-me-so-much-it-makes-me-cry","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:01:14","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:01:14","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15500","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14591,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-05-03 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-05-03 10:00:00","post_content":"\n

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