\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nIf the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nIn a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nP:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nYou feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nThere is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nWe must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nSimilar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nOnce you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nIf you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nDuring our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nDuring our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\nQ:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\nThis was a complaint from a young man in his early thirties. His story is not an uncommon one since many people feel sad about becoming estranged from their friends as they get older. They express their hurt feelings in words such as \u201cWe don\u2019t hang out anymore.\u201d and \u201cI feel my friends have become selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
During our adolescent years, friendship plays such an important role in our lives. We spend a lot of time with our friends and do everything with them. We talk openly about things we don\u2019t dare tell our parents. Thus, in a way, we tend to depend more on our friends than our parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
During our early childhood years, we depend on our parents for everything. Then, during our primary school years, friends take up a large portion of our social life. When we reach our adolescence years, we begin to take interest in the opposite gender and start dating. Then, when we enter the workforce, we form relationships with our colleagues. These changes occur naturally as we go through the different phases of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you feel sad about becoming distant from your childhood friends, it is an indication that you are still dwelling on the fond memories of the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you are married, you meet your friends less often. It becomes difficult to buy your friends a drink because you need to get your spouse\u2019s consent. If you are a woman, your responsibility of taking care of your husband and children take precedence over your old friends, which will make going out with your friends in the evening very challenging. When you have a family, you cannot go out to see people as freely as you did when you were single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similar changes take place in our relationship with our siblings. When we were young, we could have never imagined living apart from our siblings since we shared meals and clothes with one another every day. But once we get married and create our own families, we go our separate ways. So, when we have spouses and children, helping out our siblings or parents financially becomes difficult. If you give financial support to your siblings, your spouse may argue \u201cHow could you do that? We barely have enough to stay afloat ourselves!\u201d Then, there is nothing you can say to defend yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We must learn to accept the changes that occur in the different phases of our lives as something natural. The reason you feel unhappy and cannot accept the changes is that you remember your past as the \u201cgood old days.\u201d and don\u2019t want to let go. It\u2019s not your friends who are indifferent and disloyal. In fact, you are the one who is being immature. Whether you admit it or not, you are also feeling more distant from your friends. The fact that some of your friends make you feel uncomfortable and some others make you feel tired means that your feelings toward your friends are not what they used to be. Because you are being too critical of your friends\u2019 behaviors and blaming them for the reason for the change in the relationship, your attitude is causing an increasingly bigger rift between you and your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q:<\/strong> \u201cEvery year I am becoming more sensitive and short-tempered, so I suffer from chronic gastritis. I\u2019m taking prescription medication for the condition, how can I become a more relaxed and even-tempered person?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nP:<\/strong> When you want to control others and cater to your preference all the time, you can\u2019t help but feel drained and increase your chances of ending up with a physical illness.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMost importantly, you need to let go of the notion that you have to be with your friends all the time. Only then will you be free. You should be happy when you are with friends because you can enjoy their company, and also be happy when you are by yourself because you can enjoy your own company. That way, it won\u2019t matter to you whether you are alone or with people, and you will also feel good whenever you see your friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is an old saying, \u201cDon\u2019t stop those who come your way, but also don\u2019t stop those who leave.\u201d This doesn\u2019t mean you should neglect your current relationships. Rather, it means you should accept your relationships just the way they are. There is no way to stop your relationship with others from changing, so it is best not to cling to them. Only when you don\u2019t get attached to your relationships, can you truly enjoy them and the opportunities to form new relationships will open up to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You feel stressed when you are not able to understand others, but you feel good when you are able to understand them. Likewise, liking someone fills the heart with joy but hating someone causes pain and suffering. Unfortunately, however, since we are more used having a negative mindset, we are more familiar with insisting on our ways and resenting and hating others rather than understanding them. When you feel such negative emotions, consciously observing your mind, for instance, \u201cI felt hatred because I didn\u2019t like what he said.\u201d and \u201cI feel resentment because my friend doesn\u2019t spend enough time with me,\u201d helps dissipate those emotions. As you continue to observe your mind, your obsession with friendship and hatred toward your friends will gradually diminish over time.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Things You Gain And Lose As You Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"things-you-gain-and-lose-as-you-age-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:36:53","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:36:53","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17856","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n
-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book,
