Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

---

\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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<\/a><\/p>\n","post_title":"[Meditation Q&A] Is meditation designed to keep us from feeling positive emotions?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-meditation-designed-to-keep-us-from-feeling-positive-emotions","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 12:44:51","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:51","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=15522","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14553,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-15 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-15 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it normal to lose blood flow to my legs, while meditating?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-normal-to-lose-blood-flow-to-my-legs-while-meditating","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14553","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14548,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-08 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-08 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Should we do meditation while mentally or physically tired? Does meditation help?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-should-we-do-meditation-while-mentally-or-physically-tired-does-meditation-help","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:01:41","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:01:41","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14543,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-03-01 05:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-03-01 10:00:00","post_content":"","post_title":"Is it better not to meditate right after waking up?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-is-it-better-not-to-meditate-right-after-waking-up","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:09","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:09","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14543","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14538,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-02-26 10:08:36","post_date_gmt":"2023-02-26 15:08:36","post_content":"","post_title":"Can meditation make me live in the Present?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"meditation-qa-can-meditation-make-me-live-in-the-present","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-02-26 11:02:44","post_modified_gmt":"2023-02-26 16:02:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14538","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19331,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2024-05-22 23:22:27","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:27","post_content":"\n

Happiness will not fall from the sky onto your path.
When you focus on the present
and do your best, your future will be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-22 23:22:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-23 04:22:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19331","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18145,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-26 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-26 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> Most of us feel anxious and insecure about our old age. So, people ask, \u201cWhat do I need to do to prepare for a happy old age?\u201d However, there is no such thing as preparing to be happy. You must simply be happy at this moment. Let\u2019s say you slip and fall down the stairs and break a leg. If you think to yourself, \u201cWhat bad luck that I broke my leg!\u201d you will feel unhappy. However, if you think, \u201cHow fortunate that I only broke one leg when I could have easily broken both legs!\u201d you will feel happy. If you can see the positive side of everything, you will always be happy. There is no need to prepare for a happy old age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I see in the media, \u2018Your old age will be insecure if you don\u2019t prepare for it.\u2019 or \u2018You need to do this and that to be happy in your old age,\u2019 I feel like I need to do something.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to prepare for happiness is a claim of those who have never been happy. Often, all people do is prepare to become happy but end up dying without ever having been happy. Therefore, there is no need to prepare. We should be happy from this very moment. We should not prepare to be happy but be happy immediately starting today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those who are not happy today cannot be happy tomorrow, and those who are not happy in this world cannot be happy in the afterworld, should it exist. Those who always complain in this world will find something to complain about even in heaven. You may think that you will be happy the moment you get to heaven, but once you are there, you might still be unhappy. There is no place in the world that will automatically make you happy. You should be happy right here, right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, how can we become happy? Wouldn\u2019t I be miserable if I envied you and kept thinking, \u201cHow I wish I could get married!\u201d? If those of you who are married keep thinking, \u201cI wish I could live alone. How wonderful it must be to travel anywhere as freely as the Sunim does!\u201d you would be very unhappy. A monk like me should be proud of living alone, and those who are married should be so happy in their marriages as to make a monk feel jealous. Living the life we have chosen to the best of our ability is living well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be happy with everything that happens in the natural course of our lives. For instance, we should be happy to grow old as time passes, happy to be alive when alive, and happy to die when death knocks at the door. Then, it will be like living in heaven in this life as well as in the afterlife. It doesn\u2019t make sense to live this life as if we were in hell while wishing to go to heaven after death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a person who lives in Korea can live happily, Korea becomes a heaven. This person will be happy even if he lives in the U.S. However, a person who complains about his life in this world will not stop complaining even if he were sent to heaven. A complainer is likely to grumble no matter where he goes. Therefore, heaven and hell do not exist separately in another world. That is, we are in heaven when we are happy and in hell when we are miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to blame others for their hardships and suffering. However, if we look carefully, we will to see that we ourselves make our own happiness and unhappiness. Those who make themselves miserable will feel miserable even in heaven, and those who make themselves happy will be happy even in hell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We should be content with our current lives at all times. When we wake up early in the morning, when we meditate, when we prostrate, and when we have meals, we should be happy to be able to do these things. Considering that a countless number of people in North Korea are currently starving, shouldn\u2019t we be thankful for the fact that we are able to have regular meals? We should always perceive our lives in such a positive light.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Actually, you are all happy right now. You simply don\u2019t see it or feel it. Once upon a time someone visited a Zen master and talked extensively about the Buddha and his teachings. The Zen master told him, \u201cJust have a cup of tea.\u201d He meant, \u201cStop thinking nonsense.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are already happy. You don\u2019t need to work hard to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you let go of the thought, \u201cI will live happily,\u201d you will find happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We create our own misfortune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truly, our happiness and unhappiness are not created by others.<\/p>\n","post_title":"We Are The Ones Who Create Our Happiness And Unhappiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"we-are-the-ones-who-create-our-happiness-and-unhappiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-11 20:02:00","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-12 01:02:00","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18145","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17851,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-01-23 09:16:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-01-23 14:16:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> What should a woman do if her husband is adamant about getting a divorce but she wants to maintain the marriage for the sake of her young children? Should she cry and plead with her husband to change his mind? Or, should she just let go of him and get divorced?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cMy family became bankrupt as a result of my husband\u2019s attempt to expand his business beyond our means. His negligence toward me and my children made me fall into depression, and I\u2019ve had a very difficult time. Since last year, I started listening to your dharma talks and tried very hard to recover from my depression, but my husband has left the house demanding a divorce. I did the best I could every day while waiting for my husband to return home. Maybe thanks to those efforts, my children and I are doing better. However, my husband is still demanding a divorce and wants to talk about what to do about our children.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shed tears while lamenting that all her effort to heal the wound of her family was in vain. Her suffering stems from one reason - wanting her husband to change. She should be comfortable with her husband just the way he is, but if the premise of her prayer is \u201cMy husband will change if I act in a certain way\u201d, her life will be dependent on her husband\u2019s behavior and attitude. She will be at peace if she understands her husband and sympathizes with him, but she will suffer if she thinks that her husband will change if she acts in a certain way. Because she was so dependent on her husband, she was crying about the fact that he hasn\u2019t changed his mind about wanting to divorce her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a divorce lawsuit, she will be at a disadvantage is she initiates it, but if her husband is the one who initiates it, she doesn\u2019t have to worry about anything. The husband will have to do all the paperwork, hire a lawyer, schedule the date, and so on, so she won\u2019t have to do anything. When she goes to court, she can truthfully say, \u201cI still love my husband. Your honor, please protect our family.\u201d Then, the judge will very likely decide in her favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the husband still insists on getting a divorce, she can make her decision based on the situation. For example, he may offer her all his assets in return for a divorce. If he is adamant about getting a divorce, he may offer other incentives. If the offer is something she would be happy with, she can agree to the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can a person act like that? How could I have ever married such a man?\u201d If she thinks this way, she will be so miserable that she won\u2019t be able to sleep. She should just let her husband be and lead a good life with her children. If the children ask why their father doesn\u2019t come home, she should simply console them by saying, \u201cYour father must be having some difficulties. Let\u2019s pray for him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the present modern age, women\u2019s rights are so well protected that women don\u2019t have to cling desperately to their marriage. Also, there is really no need for women to curse their husbands for wanting a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right now, she is still dependent on her husband, so her happiness and unhappiness are determined by her husband\u2019s actions. However, it will be good for her if she can sympathize with him, \u201cHe must be really troubled and frustrated to be acting that way\u201d and pray for him, \u201cI believe my husband will be fine. I love my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This lady shouldn\u2019t expect her husband to change in any way or want him to come back and reunite with her. She should simply stop begging for happiness. She should become centered so she can stand on her own and have a positive mindset. Then, her face will brighten up and she will be able to raise her children well.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Don\u2019t Beg For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"dont-beg-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-27 21:20:31","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-28 02:20:31","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17851","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":16743,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-09-21 18:04:33","post_date_gmt":"2023-09-21 23:04:33","post_content":"\n

What are you doing
to grow your own happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you doing something for your happiness
the same way you take care of your body?
Many people are physically healthy
but are still suffering. Why is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are physically ill,
you get medical treatment.
That same way, is there a medicine
that can treat a disease of the mind?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes and it\u2019s called self-awareness.
A disease of the mind cannot be cured
if you don\u2019t recognize
you\u2019re suffering from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You, yourself,
need to notice your condition
and start practicing consistently.
Such practice is like constantly dripping water
that wears away stone.
That\u2019s how you can grow
your own happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Practice For Happiness","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"practice-for-happiness","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:17:36","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:17:36","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16743","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":15522,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-06-11 12:44:49","post_date_gmt":"2023-06-11 17:44:49","post_content":"\n

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