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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cOver 1.9 million lives worldwide have been taken by the Coronavirus. They say that such harm is unforeseen even in a world war scenario. Perhaps we are in a quiet state of war. In life, we encounter all sorts of unforeseen, unwanted events like this. Parents may pass away in a sudden car accident, or die due to an illness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

Sunim made a short prayer of blessing for the departed souls. He then gave a dharma talk for the person who asked the question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOver 1.9 million lives worldwide have been taken by the Coronavirus. They say that such harm is unforeseen even in a world war scenario. Perhaps we are in a quiet state of war. In life, we encounter all sorts of unforeseen, unwanted events like this. Parents may pass away in a sudden car accident, or die due to an illness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n","post_title":"My Parents Passed Away Suddenly Due To The Coronavirus. How Should I Deal With This Sorrow?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"my-parents-passed-away-suddenly-due-to-the-coronavirus-how-should-i-deal-with-this-sorrow","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-07-14 14:25:12","post_modified_gmt":"2024-07-14 19:25:12","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19798","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":17037,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2023-10-25 22:47:02","post_date_gmt":"2023-10-26 03:47:02","post_content":"\n

If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cYou must be in a lot of pain after your parents passed away so suddenly. May their souls be blessed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunim made a short prayer of blessing for the departed souls. He then gave a dharma talk for the person who asked the question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOver 1.9 million lives worldwide have been taken by the Coronavirus. They say that such harm is unforeseen even in a world war scenario. Perhaps we are in a quiet state of war. In life, we encounter all sorts of unforeseen, unwanted events like this. Parents may pass away in a sudden car accident, or die due to an illness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n

\u201cMy parents suddenly passed away due to the Coronavirus. My mom died while being treated in the hospital. My dad was discharged from the hospital after making a full recovery, but took his own life the next day. How can I overcome my grief?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou must be in a lot of pain after your parents passed away so suddenly. May their souls be blessed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunim made a short prayer of blessing for the departed souls. He then gave a dharma talk for the person who asked the question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOver 1.9 million lives worldwide have been taken by the Coronavirus. They say that such harm is unforeseen even in a world war scenario. Perhaps we are in a quiet state of war. In life, we encounter all sorts of unforeseen, unwanted events like this. Parents may pass away in a sudden car accident, or die due to an illness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

\n
\"alt\"\/<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy parents suddenly passed away due to the Coronavirus. My mom died while being treated in the hospital. My dad was discharged from the hospital after making a full recovery, but took his own life the next day. How can I overcome my grief?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou must be in a lot of pain after your parents passed away so suddenly. May their souls be blessed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunim made a short prayer of blessing for the departed souls. He then gave a dharma talk for the person who asked the question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOver 1.9 million lives worldwide have been taken by the Coronavirus. They say that such harm is unforeseen even in a world war scenario. Perhaps we are in a quiet state of war. In life, we encounter all sorts of unforeseen, unwanted events like this. Parents may pass away in a sudden car accident, or die due to an illness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to overcome this grief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself, \u201cIs the pain due to the parents\u2019 passing away?\u201d If so, then the only way to overcome the sorrow would be for the parents to come back to life. Since that cannot happen, you would be resigned to a perpetual state of grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To overcome the grief, you must recognize the misperception that it is your parents\u2019 passing that caused your sadness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allow me to explain by example. Let us suppose that someone I knew died in India. If he\/she had passed away but I had yet heard the news of his\/her passing, I would experience no sadness. Conversely, if he had not passed away but it was miscommunicated to me that he\/she had, then I would experience sadness. When we examine this, we can see that what gives rise to grief is not the person\u2019s death but the input of the information that the person died.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is another example. If a person were diagnosed with cancer and were told that he\/she had one year left to live, he\/she would be sad. Does the fact that the person only has a year left make him\/her sad? No, it does not. The sadness comes from the recognition that there\u2019s only one year left to live. There are plenty of people without cancer who will die within a year, but they are not thinking about that; hence they are not sad.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first method for overcoming grief is to see the truth as it is. This is to free oneself from the sorrow through the Buddha\u2019s teachings. The grief appears to be coming from the parents\u2019 deaths, but it actually originates from the loss of something that you hold dear to the heart. We cannot forever hold on to what we cherish. The Pali term for that is \u2018anicca\u2019. We need to correctly understand that none of our possessions or relationships are eternal. When we squarely recognize that nothing is eternal or unchanging, we can be free from the sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second approach is a religious one. The loss of death has been the greatest source of pain for humans since the ancient times because no one knows what happens afterwards. In order to overcome the grief, people started to believe that life must continue after death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two specific scenarios stand out. One is that the dead would go to a better place, called \u201cheaven\u201d or \u201cparadise.\u201d The idea is that the departed went to a better place, so there\u2019s no need to be sad. The people of the Indian subcontinent came up with an even better idea; one where the dead are reborn. Going to a better place presents the loss of being far apart, whereas being reborn back into this world greatly reduces such a sense of loss.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether it is true or not is not important. What\u2019s important is that such belief systems can reduce the grief surrounding death.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you were to examine this grief using a religious approach, you may find that there is no need to be overly sad because your parents went to a better place. Based on this belief system, grieving too much actually might hold your parents back from going to the better place. There is the following saying.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018When a child continues to sorrowfully call after a deceased parent, the departed soul, in its inability to leave or stay, becomes a lonely ghost that wanders the empty space.\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So no matter the reason for their passing, we should allow them to move on to a better place by bidding farewell.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Goodbye\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is best to say goodbye to them and let them go in no time. Such is the religious approach<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Zen approach is a bit different. Right now, it hurts a lot since the parents have passed. But in about a year, the sorrow will subside and things will be better. After another year, things will get even better. After the third year, you will live your life smiling. It\u2019s not that the parents will come back to life after three years. The situation itself will not change, but after three years you will get better. Which one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGetting better now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding that allows you to smile now. I will ask again, are you sad now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWill you be sad in three years?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThings will be better by then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhich one is better, getting better after three years of sorrow, or getting better now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c...\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you had grasped something in the conversation that we just had, your face would have lit up and said \u2018Ah, there is no sorrow.\u2019 Such is Zen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an adult. Parents pass away at some point or another. It is impossible to live with them forever. Most of the elderly folks say that they would prefer to pass away quickly, without any pain. Considering that, passing away suddenly or due to an acute illness has its benefits for the deceased.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the remaining family members are not ready for the separation, so a sudden death turns into great sorrow. However, the grief is not a problem on your parents\u2019 part who have passed away but a problem on your part since you were unprepared. Instead of viewing the grief as \u2018I am sad because my parents died\u2019, you should view it as \u2018I have lost those whom I cherish and I am sad because of the loss.\u2019 You cannot hold on to anything forever.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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If you became
independent early in life
because your family was poor,
you\u2019re actually blessed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Being Poor","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"being-poor","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-12-02 17:12:52","post_modified_gmt":"2023-12-02 22:12:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=17037","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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