Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we all understand that truth peace can blossom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

Everyone is selfish. As I am selfish, other people can also be selfish. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we all understand that truth peace can blossom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n

A peaceful world.
It is not necessary to give up our selfishness to make the world peaceful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone is selfish. As I am selfish, other people can also be selfish. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we all understand that truth peace can blossom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The final consignment of fresh produce was delivered to Jajae Palliative Care Hospital in the city of Ulsan, run by Buddhist nuns. The director, Ven. Neunghaeng and her colleagues, ran out to offer an enthusiastic greeting for Ven. Pomnyun Sunim. Although they had hoped for time to talk more deeply with the monk, the afternoon was drawing to an end and Ven. Pomnyun Sunim was due back in Dubuk, where he was scheduled to give his weekly online Dharma teaching.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Engaged Buddhism: Ven. Pomnyun Sunim Shares the Fruits of Compassion to Mark the Birth of the Buddha","post_excerpt":"May 6, 2022: Planting seedlings, delivering rice and fruit, Friday Q&A session","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_220506","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12503","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12552,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-17 08:05:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-17 13:05:00","post_content":"\n

A peaceful world.
It is not necessary to give up our selfishness to make the world peaceful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone is selfish. As I am selfish, other people can also be selfish. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we all understand that truth peace can blossom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"A Peaceful World","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-peaceful-world","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:08:52","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:08:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12552","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12548,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-10 07:59:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-10 12:59:00","post_content":"\n

True parents are the ones who raise a child. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are not necessarily the ones who gave birth to a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The true parents are...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-true-parents-are","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-24 20:05:16","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-25 01:05:16","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12548","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12465,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-05-03 13:57:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-05-03 18:57:00","post_content":"\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People meet and break up.
Breaking up may not be your choice, but
when you meet someone new,
you will live apart.
Breaking up gives you a chance to meet someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breaking up is painful.
That\u2019s because
you believe you cannot live
without the other person, but that isn\u2019t because of breakup itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When spring comes, new leaves sprout.
When autumn comes, the leaves fall off.
That's what life is all about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know that
you may feel a lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"When spring comes...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"when-spring-comes","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 14:01:03","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 19:01:03","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12465","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12390,"post_author":"13","post_date":"2022-04-29 00:01:04","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-29 05:01:04","post_content":"\n

Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives. As the old Korean proverb says: \u201cA life in a heap of dung is still better than no life at all.\u201d This implies that we are emotionally attached to life, despite the suffering we experience for various reasons.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People tell themselves that they only want to live until their children are married, until they have grandchildren, or just until the grandchildren go to college. Better yet, they say they want to live just long enough to see their grandchildren get married, all in an attempt to postpone the separation from their loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard we try to avoid thinking about death, when we see people close to us die, we can\u2019t help but confront the futility of life and the fear of death. There was a person who witnessed a family member, emaciated after years of illness, failing to swallow even a drop of water. The person wondered: \u201cDoes the spirit vanish when the body dies? If everything vanishes into nothingness, what is the point of holding onto life so dearly?\u201d The gradual loss of weight when someone is at the very end of their life is a natural process, and it is not a bad thing. Like an oil lamp that quietly fades away, consuming every bit of your own energy as you pass away could be considered a good death. Additionally, if you can remain lucid until your last breath, that would be even better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

In the Heart Sutra<\/em>, there is the phrase: \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear.\u201d This does not mean that things continue to exist for eternity without changing. Rather it means that although we believe there are life and death, in truth, life and death are not two separate entities. When we go to the beach, we can see waves. The waves are formed and then they break once they reach the shore, and this process is repeated continuously. However, if you take a step back and view the sea as a whole, you will realize that it\u2019s not that the waves are formed and then vanish, but rather the sea is just being turbulent. When you view life the way you view the sea as a whole, you will see that there is no life and death. When you observe individual waves, each wave is formed and then is broken just as life seems to appear and disappear on the surface. However, this is not the actuality; it is simply a matter of our perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s say a four-year-old boy fills a bowl with ice cubes and then goes outside to play. When he returns a couple of hours later, he will see the bowl filled with water instead of ice. What do you think the boy would say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMom, the ice cubes are gone, and there is water in the bowl.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, the mother, knowing what has happened, is able to explain to the boy that the ice has simply melted and turned into water. The ice cubes did not disappear into thin air, nor  did the water suddenly appear from nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We are like this child. We perceive the world from the perspective of what we can see in front of us. We are happy when we see things appear and we despair when we see things disappear. However, when you are able to perceive the big picture, you will realize that things simply change. This is what the phrase \u201cdoes neither appear nor disappear\u201d means. In other words, things do not appear or disappear from this world; rather things only change their form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The decomposition of a dead body and the daily regeneration of cells in a living body can be regarded as the same in that they are both expressions of change. In the same vein, the regeneration of cells in our bodies can be compared to the replacement of old pine needles by new ones, which makes evergreen trees appear green all the time. Also, the rapid process of decomposition of a dead body is analogous to the decay of fallen leaves, which makes trees look dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the fact that change is the only constant phenomenon in this world, we believe that something is alive when we can see it and that something is dead when we can no longer see it. Furthermore, when something appears in front of our eyes, we think it is born. Thoughts also suddenly enter into our heads and just as suddenly they disappear. Even if we promise, \u201cI will love you until death do us part,\u201d love will diminish over time. Believing that love will last forever or hope that it won\u2019t change is wishful thinking. Suffering is caused by your desire for things to stay the same, not by the change of heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you fully accept that everything in this world changes, you will not feel so tormented when you see things change. Like the appearance and disappearance of waves, everything that comes into existence must come to an end. Once you fully grasp this truth, you won\u2019t have fears or regrets. However, since you only perceive fragments of the big picture, you miss the things that you believe are gone and are afraid that things will disappear. After you realize that aging and death are simple changes, you will no longer be afraid.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Life and Death Are Nothing More than a Change in Form","post_excerpt":"Embedded in the desire for longevity is the yearning to not part with the people in our lives.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"life-and-death-are-nothing-more-than-a-change-in-form","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:57","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:57","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12390","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12461,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-26 13:52:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-26 18:52:00","post_content":"\n

A couple's fight begins over a trivial matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like little kids, two grown-ups fight like they have the power to fix each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one can change another person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can we fix other people when we can barely change ourselves? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way for a couple to live together happily is no mystery: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice is better than blame, and understanding is better than advice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What really needs to be fixed is our desire to fix other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"Fix Your desire to Fix Others","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"fix-your-desire-to-fix-others","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:56:38","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:56:38","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12461","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12457,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-19 13:48:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-19 18:48:00","post_content":"\n

If you hold back your emotions, you'll be stressed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you'll regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suppressing your feelings brings suffering. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you release your emotions, you may feel good for a moment, but then you'll have to face the consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the middle way is neither holding back nor releasing your emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice is about noticing so you are not dragged down by your habitual reaction to what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"The Middle Way","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-middle-way","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:52:21","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:52:21","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12457","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":12453,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2022-04-12 13:37:00","post_date_gmt":"2022-04-12 18:37:00","post_content":"\n

You cannot change someone else's habits when you are unable to change your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated with someone, remind yourself that you have become caught up in your own thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are frustrated because you keep insisting on having your own way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you repeat this reminder to yourself, you'll be frustrated less often and become more calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Illustration by Maseol <\/p>\n","post_title":"What you cannot change...","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-you-cannot-change","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-05-10 13:40:24","post_modified_gmt":"2022-05-10 18:40:24","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=12453","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":21},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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