<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q: I was born, educated and worked in Korea. I came here (Canada) to study temporarily and I fell in love with a guy who's Canadian and was born and educated here. But as I'm getting older, I want to go back to Korea. Is it really happy and healthy if I stay here just for my husband? <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"Shall I Tell My Son That He Should Have a Dream?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"shall-i-tell-my-son-that-he-should-have-a-dream","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 03:42:52","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 03:42:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2679","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2674,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-16 22:17:48","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-16 22:17:48","post_content":"\n Q: I was born, educated and worked in Korea. I came here (Canada) to study temporarily and I fell in love with a guy who's Canadian and was born and educated here. But as I'm getting older, I want to go back to Korea. Is it really happy and healthy if I stay here just for my husband? <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q: You said that it is not necessary to have a dream. If you have one, that's fine. but it is better not to have one. I have always told my son to have a dream, to figure out what he wants, and to follow his dream. These days there are many lectures on this subject. I would like to hear your thoughts on them and about what you said earlier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Do I Respect My Father's View?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-do-i-respect-my-fathers-view","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2021-05-14 04:07:26","post_modified_gmt":"2021-05-14 04:07:26","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=2677","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2679,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-16 22:20:11","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-16 22:20:11","post_content":"\n Q: You said that it is not necessary to have a dream. If you have one, that's fine. but it is better not to have one. I have always told my son to have a dream, to figure out what he wants, and to follow his dream. These days there are many lectures on this subject. I would like to hear your thoughts on them and about what you said earlier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> There\u2019s no problem right here and now. At this very moment, there\u2019s no problem. But you started crying when you thought back about the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Sorry, what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> There\u2019s no problem right here and now. At this very moment, there\u2019s no problem. But you started crying when you thought back about the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Okay, thank you. So, there is no problem here and now, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Sorry, what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> There\u2019s no problem right here and now. At this very moment, there\u2019s no problem. But you started crying when you thought back about the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Imagine you had to go back and draw and emote sadness, you have plenty of personal resources to draw from. You can probably be more authentic than any other person. Everything that you suffered in the past through your experiences can become the resource to build your future on. So, are you going to keep your experience as a source of suffering or as a resource that you can leverage to build your future? That is a choice you can make right now. Are you going to keep it as source of suffering? Are you going to keep it as your resource?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Please go ahead, if you have any further questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> No, it\u2019s very clear now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Forgive My Mother?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-forgive-my-mother","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2022-09-10 07:46:54","post_modified_gmt":"2022-09-10 12:46:54","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3031","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":2677,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-18 00:40:22","post_content":"\n Q: My father lives in California. He's older, he's disabled. He's not very healthy and he's really strong in his faith in Christianity...When I go home, he asks me questions about am I saved, and what do I really believe and I find it really uncomfortable because I know what he wants me to say and I know that he's worried that I'll go to hell and I'm not born again...And so right now up to this point, I try to deflect, I try to be respectful, and I've tried to ignore. So I want to show up the best way I can for him, to honor him and also to ensure that I hold myself in a way that I respect him fully. And not feel just some sort of frustration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> I know you said that there is no purpose in life, but I always feel there is a purpose and I can\u2019t figure it out. I am frustrated everyday trying to figure out my passion and what my goals are. Right now, I am an actress but I am struggling with a day time job and trying to pursue acting at the same time. I do not know where to go from here. I feel like I have so much potential, but I haven\u2019t tapped into it. I get frustrated because I feel like when I have goals I accomplish them and I get through them \u2013 I went through college and go to work \u2013 but I feel like I have no sense of purpose. I do not know where to go from here, and feel like I am just idling and procrastinating. That is my future question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> Okay, thank you. So, there is no problem here and now, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Sorry, what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> There\u2019s no problem right here and now. At this very moment, there\u2019s no problem. But you started crying when you thought back about the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> And then you started to suffer emotionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P:<\/strong> No one is abandoning you right now, so it is the memory of being abandoned a long time ago that is making you suffer and feel sad right now. The cause of all your suffering, the reason you are suffering now, is all in the past. It\u2019s not something that\u2019s happening to you right now. You are living in the present, but your mind is filled with past memories. You are like an audience watching a movie in a movie theater. You feel sad when somebody dies in a movie, right? But if you turn off the screen, there is nothing there. Likewise, you have a personal screen in your head that is playing a video of your past over and over again. As you watch it, you feel sad, but you stop crying once you come back to the present. That\u2019s why you have to be awake in the present. If you start watching videos of your past again, your suffering will come back. Are you going to live the rest of your life watching videos of your past? That\u2019s why you have to be awake here and now. Look around you right now. Nothing is happening to you. You are alive. You are healthy. There is no reason for you to not be happy. But whenever you turn on the video inside your head, you suffer. Do you want to suffer? Then, continue watching that video. But if you do not want to suffer, stop watching it. Just throw away the video tape. But the problem is, it is difficult to throw away that tape because it just turns on automatically. That is why you need to make a little more effort. You need to practice and catch yourself whenever you see yourself slipping into the past and bring yourself right back to the present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you find yourself slipping into the past, come back to the present and focus on the tip of your nose and be conscious of your breathing in order to become awake to the fact that you are breathing in and out. Your breath comes in and goes out. The only reality to you right now is that you are breathing in and out. If you are awake in the present, there is no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever skin color you are born with, whatever gender you are, whether you are disabled or healthy, whatever ethnicity you are, whatever religious faith you are born into, there is no reason for you to suffer because every person has the right to be happy. So whatever suffering you experienced as a young boy or young girl, whether your mother abandoned you, whether you were sexually exploited, all these things happened to you in the past. So, if you stop watching that video from the past, and remain awake in the present, you have the ability to make yourself happy. So ultimately, it boils down to your choice. Are you going to continue to be sad watching videos of your past, or are you going to live in the present and be happy? You have to decide. It is not your mom\u2019s fault. Your mother gave birth to you. Without your mom, you would not exist here. If you ever become a mother, you will understand how painful it is for a mother to abandon her child. I am sure there was a situation that forced her to make that choice. I think it is very difficult for us to imagine what kind of suffering she had to go through to abandon her child. Because you are at an age in which you can become a mom, I think you should try to understand your mom\u2019s point of view as well. So, this is the prayer you should focus on. \u201cMom, thank you for giving birth to me\u201d. The prayer should be one of gratitude. Any other thoughts you allow to slip into your mind will only make you miserable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The future takes care of itself. If you think about the future that has not come yet, you will become anxious and nervous about the future. Then, you will just be worried about the future. So, don\u2019t think too much about the future that still hasn\u2019t come because you have to be always awake in the present. Your experiences are not all bad for you. You said you are an actress, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Q:<\/strong> Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n