Nov 27, 2025 – Commemorating the 60th Anniversary of Korea-Japan Diplomatic Relations, Dharma Q&A in Tokyo, Japan
Hello. Today, Sunim is in Tokyo, Japan, meeting with senior Japanese politicians for peace on the Korean Peninsula and giving a Dharma Q&A for Japanese citizens and Korean residents.
After completing his morning practice and meditation, Sunim left his accommodation at 5:30 AM and headed to Osaka Station to travel to Tokyo. He boarded the Shinkansen train departing from Osaka Station at 6:08 AM bound for Tokyo. The volunteers preparing for the lecture also traveled with Sunim on the train.
After traveling for about 2 hours and 30 minutes, they arrived at Tokyo Station at 8:34 AM and immediately headed to the meeting location. At the meeting venue, Sunim met with Japanese government officials and discussed various ways to normalize relations between North Korea and Japan.
After finishing the meeting at 10:30 AM, they moved to the next meeting location. From 11 AM, Sunim met with senior Japanese politicians and had extensive discussions about how Korea and Japan could cooperate in the era of U.S.-China hegemonic competition. He also emphasized that normalizing relations between North Korea and the United States, and between North Korea and Japan, is crucial for stability in the Northeast Asian region. After the meeting, Sunim headed to the lecture hall for the Japanese-interpreted Dharma Q&A.
Today’s lecture is being held at Nippori Sunny Hall. It is a multipurpose cultural space located about a 2-minute walk from Tokyo’s Nippori Station. Since the Nippori area itself is a densely populated Korean residential area with many Korean restaurants and shops, it was easy to promote the lecture.
Many volunteers were busy preparing for the lecture at the venue. After warmly greeting the volunteers, Sunim headed to the waiting room. Before starting the lecture, he had tea with Mr. Hiroshi Niwano, Chairman of the Niwano Peace Foundation, and Venerable Okochi. After exchanging greetings, Sunim presented them with newly harvested rice grown at Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center.
At 2 PM, before the lecture, a commemorative event for the 60th anniversary of Korea-Japan diplomatic relations was held. First, Sunim gave a commemorative speech marking the 60th anniversary of Korea-Japan diplomatic relations.
“This year marks the 60th anniversary of diplomatic relations between Korea and Japan. Over the past 2,000 years, Korea and Japan have maintained relations as neighbors. During those years, there have been good times and bad times. Of course, there is also an unfortunate past history. However, we overcame that past and achieved normalization of relations in 1965. Looking back over the past 60 years, Korea and Japan have achieved much development through mutual cooperation. In that process, we have not always maintained good relations. We have experienced ups and downs several times.
However, the world has now entered an era of hegemonic competition between the United States and China, and Korea and Japan are positioned between them, whether fortunately or unfortunately. Between these major powers, it can be seen that it is in our mutual interest for Korea and Japan to cooperate for the future, overcoming past issues.
60th Anniversary of Korea-Japan Diplomatic Relations: Moving Forward Together Beyond the Past
Korea and Japan both have new governments this year. In the past, given the nature of the two governments, there would have been a risk of intensified conflicts between the nations. However, amid changes in the international situation, it is truly fortunate that both new governments are showing relatively friendly attitudes toward Korea-Japan relations. Therefore, I believe that the relationship between the two countries will develop stably in the future.
When Korea-Japan relations deteriorate, many people who have worked to improve them inevitably face difficulties. The most affected would be those who have married between Korea and Japan. Next would be those doing business in Korea-Japan relations. We must work together to ensure that such people do not face difficulties in the future.
Today, before our dialogue, we have arranged a brief congratulatory session to celebrate the 60th anniversary of the normalization of Korea-Japan relations. We have three speakers here to give congratulatory remarks: Chairman of the Niwano Peace Foundation, Venerable Okochi, and a director from Asuka Credit Union. Please give a big round of applause to welcome these three distinguished guests who have taken time from their busy schedules to join us. Let us all work together so that Korea-Japan relations can develop further. Thank you.”
Next, Director Yoon Geon-in of Asuka Credit Union, who has supported Venerable Pomnyun Sunim’s activities in various ways since 2014, gave a congratulatory speech.
“I am neither a Buddhist nor someone engaged in any particular religious activities. In 2014, Jungto Society approached us asking if they could rent our venue to hold a special lecture by Venerable Pomnyun Sunim. Through this connection, I met Sunim for the first time, and the lecture was held in our Asuka Credit Union auditorium. That was when I first encountered ‘Dharma Q&A.’ I was truly amazed. Sunim’s words were so comfortable and humorous, and above all, they were easy to understand and clear. Since then, I have attended several of Sunim’s lectures and read many of his books, continuing this connection. It seems like it’s already been over 10 years. Although I work in a financial institution, Sunim’s words and writings have always resonated deeply with me. This year is particularly meaningful as it marks the 60th anniversary of the normalization of diplomatic relations between Korea and Japan, as well as the 80th anniversary of the end of World War II. I believe that at this time, we must choose the path of peace to ensure that war never happens again. I am deeply impressed that Venerable Pomnyun Sunim is not only concerned with everyday life problems but also actively engaged in international issues and consistently working for peace. I sincerely hope that these activities will continue to expand and become an opportunity to give hope to all of us.”
Next, Venerable Okochi, a member of INEB (International Network of Engaged Buddhists), gave a congratulatory speech.
“Since around 1980, when the Indochina refugee crisis occurred, I have participated in international cooperation and refugee relief activities as a Buddhist. Since then, through various connections, I have been involved in various activities with INEB. In Japan, Buddhism is often perceived as a religion centered on rituals such as funerals, but INEB actively engages in social issues based on Buddhist teachings. From this perspective, I think it is truly wonderful that Venerable Pomnyun Sunim practices activities that engage with society based on the fundamental values of humanity and life, regardless of religion. I hope we can continue practical activities together to improve Korea-Japan relations and create a more peaceful future.”
Next, Chairman Hiroshi Niwano of the Niwano Peace Foundation gave a congratulatory speech.
“I sincerely congratulate you on holding this Dharma assembly commemorating the 60th anniversary of the normalization of diplomatic relations between Korea and Japan. My connection with Venerable Pomnyun Sunim began when we awarded him the 37th Niwano Peace Prize in 2020. I am grateful that our connection with Venerable Pomnyun Sunim continues to this day. Venerable Pomnyun Sunim’s life is very modest and simple. He practices a self-sufficient life by farming himself. In fact, even today, Sunim gave us rice that he harvested this fall as a gift. Thank you. However, Sunim’s activities are very active and diverse, in contrast to his modest lifestyle. At that time, we couldn’t include all of Sunim’s activities in the reasons for awarding him the Peace Prize. Venerable Pomnyun Sunim lives modestly himself but seeks to realize abundance for society. That spirit is based on Buddhist compassion and wisdom, and we are deeply impressed. I hope that the friendly relations between Korea and Japan will continue to deepen and strengthen, and I sincerely wish for the health and peace of everyone here today.”
After the congratulatory speeches from the distinguished guests, the ‘Hansarang Korean Dance Research Institute’ presented a Korean dance performance as a celebratory performance. As the lively movements matched the rhythm of the traditional music, loud applause and cheers erupted.
Sunim expressed his gratitude to the members of the ‘Hansarang Korean Dance Research Institute’ who performed as a talent donation and took a commemorative photo on stage.
After screening a video introducing Sunim with Japanese subtitles, Sunim walked onto the stage. Amid loud applause, Sunim and the interpreter sat side by side on stage. Sunim began the conversation with opening remarks.
“Today’s conversation topic is not determined by me but by you. In general lectures, the speaker determines the topic, but in Dharma Q&A, the audience determines the topic. You can raise your hand and talk about anything you want to discuss. There are no restrictions on topics. Now, anyone can start the conversation.”
People then took turns raising their hands and asking Sunim questions. During the 90-minute session, six people raised their hands and had conversations with Sunim. One of them was concerned about their fourth-grade elementary school child who spends all day watching YouTube and playing games, and asked Sunim for advice on how to educate the child.
My Child Watches YouTube and Plays Games All Day. Is This Okay?
“How can you ask a monk who doesn’t have children about that? (laughter) What did you like when you were young? Did you like watching TV? Did you like reading comic books?”
“I liked watching TV.”
“Did your parents leave you alone? Or did they stop you?”
“They stopped me.”
“When your parents told you to stop, did you stop? Or did you want to continue?”
“I wanted to continue.”
“But you’re living well now. (laughter) Among you, those who are around sixty years old probably read a lot of comic books when they were young. You read so much that your parents took the comic books away and burned them. In some homes, parents destroyed the TV because their children watched too much TV. Children naturally like to play. Their intelligence develops through play. So when you see a child playing, you shouldn’t think the child is doing something wrong. You should think, ‘That must be fun.’ When talking to a child, rather than getting irritated and saying, ‘Why are you playing games instead of studying!’ it’s better to approach gently, saying, ‘Is that fun?’
The reason you treat your child strictly is because you’re dissatisfied with the child’s behavior. However, it’s very natural for children to like games. So when talking to your child, it’s good to approach lightly, saying, ‘Is that fun?’ After observing a bit more, if you think the child’s behavior is getting a bit extreme, then you can try to have a conversation.
‘When I was your age, I loved watching TV and cartoons too. But as I grew up, I realized I needed more than just that – I needed to study as well. I know gaming is fun right now, but to be a grown-up someday, you still need to study a little.’
If you acknowledge that it’s natural for children to like games and then have a conversation from the position that ‘you still need to study a little,’ you naturally won’t speak harshly to your child. If you start a conversation with the goal of ‘don’t play games,’ you’ll end up arguing with your child. To have a conversation with your child, you need to first listen to their story and be confident enough to say, ‘Yes, play more.’ Parents think they’re being gentle with their children, thinking ‘I’m having a conversation with my child,’ but since the goal and conclusion are already set, the child doesn’t feel like it’s a conversation. From the children’s perspective, that conclusion is like a cliff. That’s not a conversation. It’s just a gentle command.”
“Thank you. I understand well.”
Questions continued.
I’m curious if meditation with eyes open is also Buddha’s teaching.
It’s difficult to care for my 97-year-old mother while working. Please tell me how to care for my mother without stress.
My Korean husband left home 3 years ago. How should I live on?
Should I live with my kids in my later years? Or is it better to live alone?
I work as a freelancer, but I keep thinking my client’s way of working is wrong. Should I accept the client’s ideas and work together?
There were more people who wanted to ask questions, but the promised 90 minutes were up. Regrettably, they promised to meet again during the next visit to Japan and ended the lecture with loud applause.
Immediately after, a book signing session was held on stage. Participants lined up, each holding a copy of Sunim’s book translated into Japanese. Sunim made eye contact and greeted each person.
After taking a commemorative photo with the volunteers who prepared the lecture, Sunim left the venue at 4 PM.
He immediately moved to the next meeting location. After conducting a meeting with relevant government officials for improving North Korea-Japan relations, he returned to the lecture hall at 6 PM.
After having dinner with a lunch box in the waiting room, he headed to the lecture hall at 7 PM. In the evening, a Dharma Q&A lecture for Korean residents was held at Nippori Sunny Hall.
With about 350 Korean residents seated, a video introducing Sunim was screened at 7 PM. When the video ended, Sunim walked onto the stage. Loud applause and cheers poured out. Sunim greeted everyone with a bright smile.
“Since you live in Japan, Korea is close, so you don’t seem to have many characteristics of Korean residents living abroad. However, when I listen to stories from Korean residents living in places like the United States or Australia, they often worry about whether they should go back to provide final care for their aging parents who are about to pass away, or continue with their own work after living abroad for twenty or thirty years. This is somewhat different from the questions I receive in Korea. When I receive such questions, I say, ‘Here it might seem like filial impiety if you don’t take care of your parents, but if you actually go to Korea, there’s a high probability of conflict with your parents.’ After taking care of your parents for a few days, you’re likely to fight because your personalities don’t match and regret coming. So I tell them not to pretend to be too filial and just live their own lives well. (laughter)
How Can I Relieve the Mental Burden of Living Abroad for a Long Time?
If you’re concerned about your parents, send them pocket money and call them often. If you’re still worried, visiting a few times a year is better than going to your hometown and living together. When I say this, most people say, ‘Sunim says that because you don’t have children and live alone, but we can’t do that with families.’ However, when you actually go and stay with your parents, what I say is generally correct. So later they say, ‘Sunim was right.’ Then I jokingly say, ‘I only say what’s right.’ (laughter)
Living alone is lonely, living with someone is annoying, when busy you want to rest, when resting you feel left behind – that’s our life, unable to do this or that. Whether it’s life stories or world stories, anything is fine. Let’s have a free conversation without topic restrictions.”
Then, starting with those who had pre-registered questions, they took turns having conversations, and questions were also taken from the audience. During the two hours, ten people asked Sunim questions. One of them shared their homesickness after many years of living abroad.
18 Years of Living Abroad… I Keep Thinking of My Hometown
Practice means not being annoyed even when living with someone, and not being lonely even when living alone. In other words, having the perspective of ‘this is fine, that is fine too’ is practice. If you want to go to your hometown, just go. Gyeongju isn’t that far away, why are you worrying about it as if it’s a big deal? If you want to go, just go for a short visit. If you take the 2 AM flight tonight, you’ll arrive in Seoul at 4:30. From Seoul to Gyeongju by KTX takes 2 hours. After spending time in Gyeongju until evening, take the KTX back to Seoul in the evening, then take the 2 AM flight from Seoul to Tokyo, and you can even go to work in the morning. It only takes one day, so why are you making such a big deal about ‘missing your hometown’? Aren’t you making a problem out of nothing?”
“I was foolish.”
“A home is a safe place that protects us. But at the same time, a home is also a shackle that binds us. It has both characteristics. To protect us, we need to level the ground, build walls, and cover the top. When the top is covered, the sides are blocked, and the bottom is sealed, isn’t that a prison? In other words, a home has the dual nature of being both a safe, protected place and a prison or shackle.
The same goes for one’s hometown. A hometown is a safe place. When you leave your hometown, you’re called a wanderer, right? Wanderers feel lonely because they’re not protected. But when you’re in your hometown, you have to be mindful of others. Your parents are there, your older siblings are there, and neighbors are there, so there’s a lot of interference. That’s why you probably moved from Gyeongju to Seoul, and from Seoul to Tokyo, wanting to escape that shackle. The further you get from your hometown, the greater your loneliness becomes proportionally. But conversely, when you return to your hometown, the shackles also grow. A friend’s father passed away, a friend’s son is getting married – you end up spending hundreds of thousands of won a month just on ceremonial expenses. If you ignore these, you’ll be criticized. It’s fine here, but in your hometown, since everyone knows each other, no matter how you dress, people talk. Whether you have a car or not, they say things like ‘That family’s son made money,’ or ‘That family’s son seems to have failed.’ A hometown has both this bondage and comfort simultaneously.
When you leave because you dislike the bondage, you feel lonely, so you look for another home. But when you enter that home and live there, you feel bound again and leave to find a better place. Moving from house to house like this is called ‘running away from home.’ On the other hand, realizing that a home is both a comfortable place and a place that binds you, and completely eliminating the home to return to, is called ‘leaving home’ (becoming a monastic). Leaving home means burning down both the home you left and the home to return to. Because I ‘left home,’ I’m fine living anywhere. Because you ‘ran away from home,’ you have these problems wherever you live. Though the act of leaving one’s hometown is the same, the essence is different. How can you compare the two?” (laughter)
“Thank you for your clear words. I think I can sleep well tonight with a light heart and my legs stretched out comfortably.”
“For someone who has renounced worldly life, it’s good to be with someone when there are two people, and it’s good to be alone when alone. When with family, it’s nice to be with family after a long time, and when alone, it’s nice not to be bothered. When in Japan, Japan should be good, and when in Korea, Korea should be good. When in the countryside, the countryside is good, and when in the Himalayas, though inconvenient, the air and water are clean. When in the city, though the air is bad, water is bad, and there are many people, it’s convenient. Every place has this aspect and that aspect.
But when you come here, you think of there, and when you go there, you think of here. When single, getting married is your wish, but after marriage, living alone looks enviable. When young, being old looks good, and when old, being young looks good again. When young, you always add years saying ‘I’m the older brother,’ ‘I’m the older sister,’ but what happens when you get old? You always subtract years. (Laughter) 
It’s good to be old when old, and good to be young when young, so you should know that time is good. But when we’re young, we envy being old, and when old, we envy being young. Instead of envying youth when old, wouldn’t it be better to enjoy being young when young? Instead of envying living alone after marriage, wouldn’t it be better to enjoy living alone when single? Instead of missing your husband or wife after separation, wouldn’t it be better to treat them well when they’re with you? I suppose you’re here because you can’t do this well.
The Buddha’s teaching is ‘being awake here and now.’ It means to be aware of yourself in this very moment, here and now. In that sense, now is the best time. Yesterday was the best yesterday, today is the best today, and tomorrow will be the best tomorrow. Days without food are good for dieting, and days with food are good for feeling full. Thinking this way is positive thinking. But most of you have negative thinking. When your parents are alive, you struggle with having to take care of them, and when they pass away, you cry missing them. No matter what, it’s always a problem. It’s a problem when you have something, and a problem when you don’t. When in Korea, going to Japan is your wish, and when in Japan, going home is your wish. Do you know what we call this in Gyeongsang dialect? We say ‘dibi jjonda’ (being fickle). Don’t be fickle, and enjoy this moment here and now. If you want to go to Gyeongju, go anytime. Don’t just miss your parents in your hometown – if you miss them, go visit them.”
“Thank you. I understand well.”
Questions continued one after another.
As an IT developer, I’m afraid of losing my job as AI advances. What should I do?
Are the good deeds I do really for others? Is an altruistic nature something we’re born with?
I want to send my daughter to a Korean school rather than a Joseon school.
How should I live with a husband who speaks harshly and tries to fix others?
I’m suffering so much after breaking up with a good person.
I want to apologize to my son for my foolish parenting. What should I say?
I feel disappointed that my son thinks of himself as Japanese. Am I raising him right?
My work at the nursing home is too hard due to staff shortage. How can I manage my mind?
My child struggles when things don’t go as planned despite trying hard. What can I tell them?
After answering all the questions, Sunim gave closing remarks.
“Was it interesting?”
“Yes!”
“Any problem becomes a problem when viewed from the perspective of ‘I don’t like it.’ Your husband is a problem, your parents are problems, your children are problems, and the world is a problem. But when you look more closely, everything happens for a reason. Your husband’s irritation comes from his background that makes him act that way, and the same goes for your child’s reactions. When you look closely like this, it’s not really a problem. Cats act like cats, and dogs act like dogs, but conflict arises when we think ‘Why do they act differently?’ But when you look closely, they’re different types of animals. ‘Ah, that’s why dogs act that way and cats act this way.’ When you understand it this way, it’s no problem at all. When you look at anything closely, it’s no big deal.
It Seems Like a Big Deal Now, but It’s Really Nothing
After talking with me, what seemed desperately difficult just moments ago now feels like nothing, doesn’t it? ‘It’s nothing’ – in sophisticated terms, this is ’emptiness’ (空). Conversely, what appears to be a big problem at first glance is ‘form’ (色). You’ve heard the phrase from the Heart Sutra, ‘form is emptiness, emptiness is form,’ right? It seems difficult when written in Chinese characters, but it’s really nothing special. It means that while something may appear to be a problem at first glance, when you look closely, there’s no problem at all.
All problems in this world are like that. When you’re worked up, it seems like a big problem, but if you look closely, it’s really nothing. What seems like a major problem now becomes nothing with time. So the greatest enlightenment is knowing that ‘it’s nothing.’ When your boyfriend leaves, it seems like a big deal, but when time passes and you meet someone better, that old incident becomes nothing, doesn’t it? Wouldn’t it be nice to know from the beginning that what will be nothing later is nothing now? But you only realize it’s nothing after suffering thoroughly. That’s why realizing ‘it’s nothing’ is most important.
From today, when you go home, take a moment to breathe and carefully examine what ‘seems like a big deal.’ How would this look if I looked back on it after a year? After two years? If this happened to someone else, how would I view it? When you examine it carefully like this, everything is no big deal. Is it a big deal if your husband dies? It could be good – you might remarry. Even if you don’t, isn’t living alone wonderful? But of course, you can’t tell him to die. If he dies on his own, what can we do? The reason I’m saying all this is because everything that happens in the world happens because the conditions for it to happen have been met. Of course, it would be nice if it didn’t happen, but what can we do about what has already happened? 
So first, calm your startled mind. This is called ‘equanimity.’ When you look at things calmly, you’ll realize that nothing is really a big deal. Looking back at your life from the perspective that everything turns out to be no big deal, you can handle both immigrant life and married life well. You keep thinking ‘I must be special’ and treating life as something extraordinary. Life is simple. When you’re hungry, you eat. When you’re sleepy, you sleep. When you wake up in the morning, you work. When it’s lunchtime, you eat. When night comes, you sleep. That’s life. Squirrels and rabbits all live this way, so why do only humans try to be special? Still, humans have more interesting things than squirrels and rabbits.
Try to find joy in life. Look at things from the perspective of ‘How fascinating!’ or ‘This is really interesting.’ Is it better to work at one company for a long time? Or is it better to move between different companies? It’s fine to work at one company your whole life, but isn’t it also okay to change jobs here and there? Why would you want to do only one thing your entire life after being born into this world? Try this work, try that work, live here, live there. You don’t need to do it on purpose, but if circumstances lead you that way, that’s fine too. Most days, I don’t sleep in the same room for two nights. I live a wandering life every single day. It’s great because I get to see so much. I visit this house, that house, sleep in this room, that room – how wonderful is that? When I get old and can’t travel anymore, then I’ll just stay quietly in one room. If you change your perspective just a little, your life can become more comfortable too. I hope all of you will live happy lives.” 
The lecture concluded with thunderous applause. It was past 9 PM. Immediately after, a book signing session began on stage.
Many people formed a long line, making eye contact with Sunim and expressing their gratitude.
Finally, Sunim took a commemorative photo with the volunteers.
“Tokyo, fighting!”
After expressing his gratitude to the volunteers, Sunim headed to Tokyo Haneda Airport to catch his flight back to Korea.
Upon arriving at the airport, Sunim checked in his luggage, went through departure procedures, and wrapped up the day’s activities by attending to work matters at the boarding gate.
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Tokyo Haneda Airport at 2 AM and arrive at Incheon Airport. In the morning, he will have a meeting with Professor Park Jin-do at the Jungto Social and Cultural Center. In the afternoon, he will travel to Suncheon to visit the ‘Loving Village Learning Center’ operated by Pastor Kim Min-hae, where he will have conversations with the teachers. In the evening, he will continue with the tenth Happy Dialogue Dharma Q&A lecture in Gwangju.
