Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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In my view, whatever you two decide to do together will be a good decision. I can\u2019t see that there is a bad decision or a good decision to be made. Any decision you make will be fine, and you can even change your decision midway. In a world where people get married and have three children, only to then get divorced, this is not a big problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The important thing is to come to an agreement. There\u2019s more than one decision to be made here. There\u2019s this thing to decide, that thing to decide, you could decide to split up, or you could each plan your futures separately from each other. I suggest you take it all into account while reaching an agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my view, whatever you two decide to do together will be a good decision. I can\u2019t see that there is a bad decision or a good decision to be made. Any decision you make will be fine, and you can even change your decision midway. In a world where people get married and have three children, only to then get divorced, this is not a big problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The important thing is to come to an agreement. There\u2019s more than one decision to be made here. There\u2019s this thing to decide, that thing to decide, you could decide to split up, or you could each plan your futures separately from each other. I suggest you take it all into account while reaching an agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my view, whatever you two decide to do together will be a good decision. I can\u2019t see that there is a bad decision or a good decision to be made. Any decision you make will be fine, and you can even change your decision midway. In a world where people get married and have three children, only to then get divorced, this is not a big problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\u201cI think the girlfriend has also given up the reins a bit. (Laughter) In a situation like this, if your boyfriend insists that he wants to stay in Germany, it may be better to follow his decision. Whether it unfolds one way or another, it's not a big deal. When one person has stronger feelings for the other, they might end up yielding the final say in decisions. If despite wanting to pursue your own interests, you find it too hard to accept breaking up, then you have to let the other person take the reins. It\u2019s not a bad thing to let the other person take the lead. Isn\u2019t this why we say there\u2019s a bit of a friendly tug of war in relationships? Give it a try.\" (Audience Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is to come to an agreement. There\u2019s more than one decision to be made here. There\u2019s this thing to decide, that thing to decide, you could decide to split up, or you could each plan your futures separately from each other. I suggest you take it all into account while reaching an agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my view, whatever you two decide to do together will be a good decision. I can\u2019t see that there is a bad decision or a good decision to be made. Any decision you make will be fine, and you can even change your decision midway. In a world where people get married and have three children, only to then get divorced, this is not a big problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, it won\u2019t last long if something benefits me but doesn\u2019t benefit the other. For instance, like the couple who just asked their question, if one side wants to go back to Korea but the other one doesn\u2019t and feels like they\u2019re losing out, they may tolerate it at first, but it won\u2019t last long. Eventually, the relationship will deteriorate. On the other hand, if it benefits the other person but not me, that relationship won't last long either. After a while, at some point, you\u2019ll think, \u2018Why am I living like this?\u2019 So it needs to be beneficial for you and the other person in order for it to be sustainable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
First, it should be good now; second, it should be good in the future; third, it should be good for me; fourth, it should also be good for you. If it has these four qualities, it can be called truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today's Dharma talk wasn\u2019t only beneficial for all of you but also for me. It\u2019s not like I sacrificed anything for your sake. I had a fun time having conversations with you. It\u2019s not just you who learned something but I also learned a lot. I was able to gain new information through our conversations, like, 'I see, people with sensitive personalities have these kinds of concerns,' and 'I see, parents of children have these kinds of concerns.' I\u2019m not married, so how else could I obtain such information if not for an opportunity like this? (Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Data will become increasingly crucial in the future. Through these Dharma talks, I\u2019m amassing substantial volumes of big data. These talks allow me to gather all sorts of information about life. It would be hard to find someone who has as much information as I do about the worries people have in life. I get all kinds of questions asked to me. From politicians to celebrities, and from everyday individuals, including the disenfranchised, I\u2019ve listened to people from all over the world. This kind of experience is both fun and beneficial, for you and for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask me a question and I don\u2019t know the answer, who does it benefit? Me. Why is that? Because it gives me an opportunity to learn something new. If you hadn't asked me the question, I would never know that I didn't know. On the other hand, if you ask me a question and I provide you a good answer, who benefits from that? You. And, by benefiting you, I accumulate merit. So, these conversations are by no means a losing proposition. This is why I don't charge any fee for my lectures or Dharma talks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has the right to be happy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
No matter how your child is or how your parents are, you have the right to be happy and can be happy. Parents with children who have disabilities also have the right to be happy and can be happy. When parents obsess over their children with disabilities needing to become \u2018normal\u2019 rather than accepting them as they are, they end up feeling burdened for life and their children develop a lifelong sense of inferiority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
All of you need to know that helping or loving others can inadvertently cause significant harm to the other person. You shouldn\u2019t think, \u2018It's fine as long as my intentions are not malicious.\u2019 In practice, what\u2019s most important isn\u2019t whether your intentions were good or bad, but whether you were foolish or wise. In a broader light, evil actions can be seen as foolish actions, because, in the long run, you only end up bringing harm to yourself by doing evil actions. This is why in Buddhism, there is no concept of good and evil. But this doesn't mean you can act recklessly. More fundamental than good and evil is foolishness. Since foolishness is the root cause of all suffering, breaking free from foolishness is what we call enlightenment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talks aren\u2019t about providing a logical explanation using this principle, but rather, it involves 'self-healing' through our dialogue on real-life problems. The conclusion you reach should be, \u2018Hey, it's not that big a deal!' Just like the couple who asked the question earlier, that kind of conflict between a boyfriend and girlfriend is insignificant when you take a step back and look at it. Whether they reside in Germany or in Korea is of little consequence in the bigger picture. There's nothing in life that is particularly problematic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, among things that may seem insignificant, unexpected events can arise depending on the circumstances. Philosophically, this is referred to as \u2018form.' Coming to realize that something isn't as significant as it seemed is referred to as 'emptiness.' Within what may appear insignificant, there can be something unexpected, and within what may seem significant, close examination may reveal nothing as such. This is the phrase, \u2018Form is nothing other than emptiness.\u2019 If you can understand how this works, you can live life a bit more freely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Praying for blessings is Buddhism as a religion. In Buddhism as a practice, the main focus is, \u2018How can I live without suffering?\u2019 What religion you choose to have is a matter of personal freedom. Whether you are Christian or Buddhist or don\u2019t have a religion, that has no bearing on what we\u2019re doing in this Dharma talk. Regardless of religion, clothing, or skin color, all of you can feel unburdened and happy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma talk ended with a big round of applause .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will depart from Munich, cross the border, and travel to Paris, France. After a full day of traveling by train, he will continue with the 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour, delivering the fifth talk in Paris during the evening.<\/p>\n","post_title":"I want to stay in Germany longer, but my girlfriend wants to go back to Korea","post_excerpt":"Sep 4, 2023","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"pomnyun_230904","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-12-02 20:40:56","post_modified_gmt":"2024-12-03 01:40:56","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16683","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\u201cI think the girlfriend has also given up the reins a bit. (Laughter) In a situation like this, if your boyfriend insists that he wants to stay in Germany, it may be better to follow his decision. Whether it unfolds one way or another, it's not a big deal. When one person has stronger feelings for the other, they might end up yielding the final say in decisions. If despite wanting to pursue your own interests, you find it too hard to accept breaking up, then you have to let the other person take the reins. It\u2019s not a bad thing to let the other person take the lead. Isn\u2019t this why we say there\u2019s a bit of a friendly tug of war in relationships? Give it a try.\" (Audience Laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The important thing is to come to an agreement. There\u2019s more than one decision to be made here. There\u2019s this thing to decide, that thing to decide, you could decide to split up, or you could each plan your futures separately from each other. I suggest you take it all into account while reaching an agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my view, whatever you two decide to do together will be a good decision. I can\u2019t see that there is a bad decision or a good decision to be made. Any decision you make will be fine, and you can even change your decision midway. In a world where people get married and have three children, only to then get divorced, this is not a big problem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Okay, I understand.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After all seven questioners got to speak with Sunim, one more question was taken from someone who had traveled a distance to come to the Dharma talk. Then, Sunim shared his closing words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas this fun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaving fun means you're enjoying the moment. Regardless of how interesting the story is, if it lacks fun, it becomes dull.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWas it beneficial?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Yes!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"No matter how fun something is, if it isn't educational, it\u2019ll just feel like you saw a funny comedy show. When you look back later, you\u2019ll feel like you wasted your time. This is why it needs to be both fun and beneficial. To put it another way, it should be good now and also good later. Moralists sacrifice too much of the present for the sake of the future, while hedonists sacrifice too much of the future for the sake of the present. Both end up regretting it. We need to not give up on the present or the future. It should be good now and in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The four qualities of truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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