Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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'If you accept me like this, we can live together, but if you can\u2019t accept me like this, I can't live with you either. I talked about this even before we got married. I can't compromise on this issue,' <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The third way is simply to play tennis as much as you want. If your wife criticizes it, you say, 'I feel like I'm going to die if I don't do this,' and just keep playing tennis. You live your life doing everything you want to do. Then, if your wife packs her bags and leaves, this is a way to say 'Goodbye' to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you accept me like this, we can live together, but if you can\u2019t accept me like this, I can't live with you either. I talked about this even before we got married. I can't compromise on this issue,' <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The third way is simply to play tennis as much as you want. If your wife criticizes it, you say, 'I feel like I'm going to die if I don't do this,' and just keep playing tennis. You live your life doing everything you want to do. Then, if your wife packs her bags and leaves, this is a way to say 'Goodbye' to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you accept me like this, we can live together, but if you can\u2019t accept me like this, I can't live with you either. I talked about this even before we got married. I can't compromise on this issue,' <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The third way is simply to play tennis as much as you want. If your wife criticizes it, you say, 'I feel like I'm going to die if I don't do this,' and just keep playing tennis. You live your life doing everything you want to do. Then, if your wife packs her bags and leaves, this is a way to say 'Goodbye' to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you accept me like this, we can live together, but if you can\u2019t accept me like this, I can't live with you either. I talked about this even before we got married. I can't compromise on this issue,' <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I can't do everything I want, and I can't give in to everything the other person asks. You need to talk to your wife about how best to balance between those two things and come to a compromise. You also have to negotiate with your child. A wise person is one who lets go of himself and seeks a path in the here and now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Thank you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After the questions and answers that followed, Sunim finally summarized today's conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\"If life is suffering, shouldn't we study why it is suffering? There is no set answer for how to live life. Everyone can live as they please. But the problem is, why are you suffering when you have lived your life the way you want? You all immigrated because you wanted to, and at first you were incredibly happy. But after a while, you say it's painful. You say that you are suffering because of your work life while working at the company you wanted to work for. You say that you are suffering because of the store you opened because you wanted to. You say that you are suffering because of your married life, living with someone you married because you wanted to. All of these situations are contradictory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you get married because you like each other, why do you complain that marriage is painful? Isn\u2019t this a topic that really needs to be studied? \u2018Of all the men and women, I married the one I like the most, but why do I feel hateful and resentful?\u2019 You hate your husband or wife, but you don't think about studying him or her. So, I suggest you research why suffering occurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Buddha\u2019s teachings were not originally religious, but were teachings about \u2018Why is it suffering?\u2019 The Buddha is a person who studied the way to live without suffering. Where you go when you die or how you can become rich were not the Buddha's concerns. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, whether your status is high or low, these things aside, the most important question is, \u2018How can I live a life without suffering?\u2019 In other words, not suffering is called a \u2018happy life.\u2019 The happy life mentioned here is different in character from the joyful life. Because we treat pleasure as happiness, suffering inevitably follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
A healthy life is a life without pain. Being healthy doesn't mean you have to run faster than others in the 100-meter dash or be able to lift heavy weights that others can't lift. Tall people are as tall as they are, short people as small, children as children, adults as adults, disabled people as they are, and if they are not sick, they are healthy. Similarly, if you are not suffering, you are happy. But because you treat pleasure as happiness, suffering always follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a slight shift in perspective, regardless of religion, race, nationality, or gender, anyone can live without suffering. You can live without suffering alone or with others, whether you're young or old, and even when your body experiences physical pain, you can still live without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person who lived a miserable life in Korea immigrated to the United States, will the suffering go away? If a person who was suffering when living alone gets married, will the suffering go away? Suffering does not occur temporarily, but the same suffering occurs as you live. Because you have karma. When we destroy karma, we can escape suffering and live a pain-free life. From that perspective, I hope you explore yourself a little more. But you shouldn't think too much. Because all suffering comes from thoughts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Anyone born into this world can live happily. I hope you don\u2019t lose sight of this perspective and live your life. This is how one loves oneself. Stop looking at others and start loving yourself. I think you guys are torturing yourself too much.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Sunim will be traveling to Boston on a flight departing at 3:30 AM. In the afternoon, Sunim has a meeting scheduled at Harvard University, and in the evening, Sunim will be giving a Dharma Talk with English interpretation at Harvard University.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Dallas(Sep 14, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow can we adopt a frugal lifestyle in a consumerist culture?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-dallassep-14-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Because you are also at risk of doing the same, I said, \u2018Think of it as a car accident.\u2019 If you keep thinking, \u2018I persevered and devoted myself to my child and wife,\u2019 the conflict is bound to get worse in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The third way is simply to play tennis as much as you want. If your wife criticizes it, you say, 'I feel like I'm going to die if I don't do this,' and just keep playing tennis. You live your life doing everything you want to do. Then, if your wife packs her bags and leaves, this is a way to say 'Goodbye' to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you accept me like this, we can live together, but if you can\u2019t accept me like this, I can't live with you either. I talked about this even before we got married. I can't compromise on this issue,' <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After talking to your wife like this, you just establish your boundaries and live accordingly.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"My wife acknowledges that we had agreed before, but she said that it can change since we didn\u2019t write a pledge. She says that child's education has become more important now.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"If a pledge had been written, the conflict would have become more severe. If you had written an agreement, you would have been more justified. There's a saying that goes, 'The state of mind when going to poop is different from the state of mind after pooping.' Before marriage, the promise was made with the intent of getting married. However, once marriage has taken place, is there really a need to stick to that promise? The human mind is always changing like this. It is the human heart that things become this way at one time and that way at another time. The idea that a person's heart must always be the same is wrong. Statements such as \u2018the other person betrayed me\u2019 and \u2018the other person did not keep her promise\u2019 are all wrong. Unless you're a fraudster, you don't make a promise from the beginning with the intention of breaking it. Most people aren't fraudsters. That was how she felt then and this is how she feels now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Think about it from your wife\u2019s perspective. When you two didn't have children yet, your wife embraced your hobby. But she thought that now that the child is older, the father and child need time together. Why did she feel that way? Now, the child is not listening to her. That's why she wants to borrow her husband's help. So you need to ask your wife what she wants her child to do and negotiate quietly with the child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
'If you do what Mom wants, Dad will give you some allowance, and we'll spend weekends together'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you negotiate with your child like this, you can solve the problem wisely. Claiming that I am justified because my wife promised me something before marriage, or complaining that I can't pursue my hobby because of my beloved wife, these actions are not waking up to reality. It was like that in the past, but now things have changed. You need to focus on how to solve the problem wisely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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