March 6, 2026. Visit to Oeosa Temple, Dubuk Farm, Friday Dharma Q&A
Hello. Morning has dawned at Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center.
After completing morning practice and meditation, Sunim departed from Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center at 8:50 AM for a site visit.
Every spring and fall, elderly residents from villages near Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center are invited on outings. This year, Sunim set out for a walk to explore whether a trip to Oeosa Temple and Bogyeongsa Temple in Pohang might be suitable.
After a 50-minute drive, Sunim arrived at Oeosa Temple in Nam-gu, Pohang at 9:40 AM. Oeosa is a thousand-year-old temple founded during the reign of King Jinpyeong of Silla. The temple, situated by a lake, offered exceptionally beautiful scenery. After confirming whether large buses could enter and carefully examining how to guide the elderly from the entrance to the main hall, Sunim exited through the temple gate.
Around the temple, new leaves were sprouting in bright green on every branch of the weeping willows.
“The weeping willows have bloomed. Spring has arrived.” 
After completing the site visit, Sunim headed to the old Gyeongju Station. Having heard that Venerable Jongsu, a living witness to Korean temple forest research and a pioneer in Korean-Chinese Buddhist cultural exchange, was currently staying at Bulguksa Temple, Sunim had arranged a meeting in advance. They exchanged warm greetings in front of Gyeongju Station and had tea while engaging in deep conversation about the current state of the Chinese Buddhist Association and the difficulties during the Northeast Asian History Tour.
After bidding farewell to Venerable Jongsu, Sunim headed to Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center’s farm. In preparation for spring, farming team practitioners were spreading compost on the fields.
After receiving a report on this year’s farming plans from the farming team leader, Sunim toured various parts of the farm.
At 5:20 PM, Sunim got back in the car to survey the Yangji Village area. Due to the valley’s characteristics, the northern side of the stream received more sunlight, making it appear suitable for establishing a memorial park. After exploring whether there might be appropriate sites, Sunim returned to Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center.
As the sun set, at 7:30 PM, Sunim took a seat in front of the camera in the broadcasting room and began the Friday Dharma Q&A live broadcast. With over 4,400 people connected simultaneously, after the introductory video ended, Sunim offered opening remarks.
Sunim began by sharing the early spring scenery at Ulsan’s Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center, opening with the thought that if we view life broadly like nature’s cycles, our anguish and suffering can become much lighter.
“I am currently at Dubuk Jungto Retreat Center. The weather is still chilly, and tomorrow morning it’s expected to drop below freezing. Nevertheless, the adonis flowers are blooming yellow, and the red plum blossoms are in full bloom. Below the wall, various new shoots including lycoris are sprouting.
Today, I briefly visited Oeosa Temple in Pohang to scout a location for the elderly spring outing, and the weeping willow leaves were already sprouting green. Although the weather is cold and ice still remains, this is the season when signs of spring are visible. I hope all of you are staying healthy and well?
As we go through life, we encounter various difficulties. When that happens, a wish arises in our hearts: ‘If only nothing would happen.’ Since ancient times, most of our ancestors’ prayers were for the absence of accidents. However, in this world, typhoons blow, heavy snow falls, severe cold arrives, and scorching heat comes. People are born and die, and accidents large and small occur. So it’s easy to think we cannot escape life’s suffering.
But what if we take a step back and look at the world? In spring, new shoots sprout; in summer, they grow lush; in autumn, leaves fall. After winter passes and spring returns, new shoots sprout again. Major floods or droughts may come once every 10 or 100 years. However, from nature’s perspective, such things have always happened and will continue to happen.
When You View Life Broadly, There Isn’t Much to Suffer About
The same is true for all life. We are born, grow, age, and die. We die of old age, die of illness, or die in accidents. Viewed broadly, these are merely phenomena of the world. Individual waves appear to rise and fall, but looking at the ocean as a whole, it’s just water rippling.
Looking at it this broadly, I wonder how much in our lives is truly worth suffering and grieving over. As I age these days, various parts of me are breaking down. When I treat one area, another breaks down; when I fix that, yet another area fails. It’s like an old car that breaks down again just days after leaving the repair shop. Sometimes I think it might be time to follow the scrapping procedure. Of course, I fully understand the affection of those around me who say, ‘You must live longer and healthier.’ Still, I sometimes think it might be right to wrap things up at an appropriate time.
When we view our lives broadly, there’s little to be anxious about or agonize over. Looking at the world today, people are dropping bombs, trampling on others, and killing to gain more and rise higher. In the process, they have no regard for those dying, inflicting pain on others solely because they believe they are right or because they have power. It makes me wonder if it’s worth living that way. If we could see a bit more broadly, we could reduce our own anguish and stop causing pain to others.”
Following this, four people who had submitted questions in advance asked Sunim their questions. The dialogue continued for about an hour. One person shared concerns about how to approach someone who speaks aggressively toward them, especially now that they’ve been placed in the same group again.
How Should I Approach Someone Who Keeps Attacking Me When We’re Forced to Work Together?
“Our minds develop preferences and aversions based on the habits we’ve formed throughout life—our ‘karma.’ This person triggers feelings of dislike based on your karma. 
When we feel dislike, we try not to meet; when we feel attraction, we want to meet even if it means going out of our way. However, when conditions arise that separate us from someone we have a good relationship with, suffering emerges. When we have feelings of affection but must part, this is called ‘suffering of separation from loved ones’ (愛別離苦). While meeting someone we like doesn’t cause suffering, parting from them does.
What about when feelings of dislike arise? Under conditions of separation, no suffering occurs—in fact, we feel relieved. However, when we must meet someone we dislike, suffering arises. This is called ‘suffering of meeting those we hate’ (怨憎會苦). With people we like, suffering arises when parting; with people we dislike, suffering arises when meeting.
Throughout life, whether with objects, people, or situations, we meet and part. We like some things and dislike others. Some things go as we wish, others don’t. Sometimes we meet those we don’t want to meet, and sometimes we part from those we want to be with. Meeting when we want to meet and parting when we want to part causes no problems. Suffering arises when we must part from those we want to meet or continue meeting those we want to leave.
Looking at life’s connections through mathematical ‘cases,’ we can divide them into four types. Meeting when we want to meet and parting when we want to part—these two cause no problems. But the other two create suffering. If we can resolve these two, we can live without suffering. If we can willingly part even from those we like, and willingly meet even those we dislike, we become free from suffering and always remain free. No matter whom we meet, what we do, where we go, or what we eat, nothing obstructs us.
You’ve now been given an opportunity to overcome one of the two challenges that cause suffering. If you can avoid it, that would be good—there’s no need to meet and resolve it. But if you keep getting entangled, try experiencing being with someone you dislike. If this becomes possible, you’ll gain a very valuable life experience. You’ll be able to remain free without suffering even when meeting disliked people at work, doing unwanted tasks, or eating disliked foods. Your current situation is a good opportunity to solve this challenge. If you overcome just this, you’ll gain an experience that prevents suffering in any situation, so please try to actively work through it.
Since you’ve tried avoiding but couldn’t, rather than holding onto that and suffering, why not make it a life challenge? Set a goal: ‘If I solve just this problem well, I can gain greater freedom in my life.’ You’ve run away two or three times but keep getting mysteriously entangled, so make this a challenge to resolve in your life. Like in ancient warfare, when enemies keep following as you retreat, at some appropriate position you turn around and counterattack. Similarly, think ‘Let me solve this problem once and for all,’ and try working together, conversing, and eating with that person. Take the perspective of actively wanting to resolve whatever happens. If you change your mindset and find through experience that ‘they’re just like everyone else,’ later you’ll be less constrained by dislikes. I hope you’ll think of your situation as a practice opportunity for your own freedom and willingly accept it.”
“You’re thinking about this somewhat foolishly right now. If this problem could be solved by being kind once or twice or with a little effort, it wouldn’t be a real challenge. Wouldn’t it be a true challenge only if it doesn’t resolve even after trying a hundred different methods? Hoping for luck, thinking ‘Maybe if I just try this a little?’ and then when it doesn’t work, thinking ‘Oh, this person really is problematic’—that’s hoping life will resolve itself. If you could become free that way, it wouldn’t be called practice.
Making it a challenge means it might not resolve even after a hundred attempts. Knowing this and still doing it makes not succeeding completely natural. You shouldn’t think ‘it must work’ or ‘I must solve it.’ When you finally resolve it after trying this method, that method, a thousand methods, only then do you realize, ‘I can work things out even with someone like this.’ Then later, no matter how disliked someone you meet, you can try without fear because you have experience solving it once.
The less the problem resolves, the more you need the perspective of ‘This is a practice challenge for my life’s freedom.’ If you say, ‘I’ve been kind, tried several times, but it didn’t work,’ that’s not a challenge. Just try even knowing it won’t work after a hundred different methods. Let go of thinking ‘This will work’ and accept that it won’t work. Practice isn’t about things being resolved. Practice is accepting things that can’t be resolved as they are. When you reach that point, even if that person continues being aggressive, you can be free. That is true freedom.”
“Thank you. I understand well.”
Questions continued to follow.
After my boyfriend’s lies, my suspicion has grown and dating has become difficult. Should I continue this relationship?
My sibling’s words hurt me, and I’m struggling with how to communicate. How can I express my feelings without causing hurt?
I’m confused about the standards for practice in the world. How much should I accept and where should I draw boundaries?
After finishing the Dharma Q&A live broadcast, it was 9 PM.
Tomorrow, there will be an all-day joint meeting with all Jungto Society executives gathered in an online video conference room. In the morning, after giving an opening Dharma talk for the joint meeting, Sunim will travel to Tongdosa Temple to meet with the senior monk Beopsan for tea and conversation. In the afternoon, there will be a Dharma Q&A session for the joint meeting participants.
