Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Likewise, you must also apply the perspective of practice only to yourself. This perspective should not be applied to others. When your wife gets angry, you should empathize and say, \u2018My wife deserves to get angry. Honey, I'm sorry.\u2019 When you get angry, you should ask yourself, \u2018Why am I getting angry?\u2019 and see it as your own problem. You shouldn't try to receive an apology from the other person. They must be applied differently.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Likewise, you must also apply the perspective of practice only to yourself. This perspective should not be applied to others. When your wife gets angry, you should empathize and say, \u2018My wife deserves to get angry. Honey, I'm sorry.\u2019 When you get angry, you should ask yourself, \u2018Why am I getting angry?\u2019 and see it as your own problem. You shouldn't try to receive an apology from the other person. They must be applied differently.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Likewise, if certain teachings are constantly misapplied in a societal context for personal psychological healing, it can lead to a distortion of Buddhist teachings. \u2018Whether the world goes upside down or not, do not get involved. Only focus on your own mind,\u2019 if you Interpret it this way, Buddhism will turn away from social justice. This is why many criticisms are raised against Buddhism. However, the Buddha did not approach it this way. He spoke and did a lot of work on social justice issues such as gender discrimination, class discrimination, and wars. The side effects arise because the methods for healing inner wounds are repeatedly applied outwardly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, you must also apply the perspective of practice only to yourself. This perspective should not be applied to others. When your wife gets angry, you should empathize and say, \u2018My wife deserves to get angry. Honey, I'm sorry.\u2019 When you get angry, you should ask yourself, \u2018Why am I getting angry?\u2019 and see it as your own problem. You shouldn't try to receive an apology from the other person. They must be applied differently.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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Even if you talk extensively about your wife, I would not provide any advice on how your wife should behave. This is because there is a high likelihood that you would attempt to apply the Buddha's teachings to your wife. In that case, the Buddha's teachings can become a dagger. Speaking based on the Buddha's words can act as poison. Therefore, you should always apply the Buddha's teachings to yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, if certain teachings are constantly misapplied in a societal context for personal psychological healing, it can lead to a distortion of Buddhist teachings. \u2018Whether the world goes upside down or not, do not get involved. Only focus on your own mind,\u2019 if you Interpret it this way, Buddhism will turn away from social justice. This is why many criticisms are raised against Buddhism. However, the Buddha did not approach it this way. He spoke and did a lot of work on social justice issues such as gender discrimination, class discrimination, and wars. The side effects arise because the methods for healing inner wounds are repeatedly applied outwardly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, you must also apply the perspective of practice only to yourself. This perspective should not be applied to others. When your wife gets angry, you should empathize and say, \u2018My wife deserves to get angry. Honey, I'm sorry.\u2019 When you get angry, you should ask yourself, \u2018Why am I getting angry?\u2019 and see it as your own problem. You shouldn't try to receive an apology from the other person. They must be applied differently.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
If you can see that it's not a big deal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I went through many twists and turns to get to Toronto. But in hindsight, it becomes quite an interesting experience. There were several dramatic moments, but all of those became memories. So, I have more stories to tell. But, if I had not arrived here today even after going through all those twists and turns, it would have been a bit disappointing. However, looking back on it, I will acknowledge that it could have been that way. Some of you today came from far away, driving five hours, and if this Dharma Talk had been canceled, you would have felt a bit upset. But, when you look back after ten years, it's really not a big deal. Even if the Dharma Talk had been canceled, what big deal would happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That's why, if you look back, nothing great happens in life. It's filled with various twists and turns, but what we face at the moment feels like such a big deal. It's a big deal if you go outside the lecture hall and the road is blocked, it's a big deal if you can't shake hands with me, it's a big deal if you want to take a picture with me but you can't, it's a big deal all sorts of things. We live between what is a big deal and what is not-so-big deal. So, if you can know that what seems like a big deal is actually not a big deal, you can live freely each day. I hope you can live your life in such freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The Dharma Talk ended with loud applause. The book signing event started right away on the stage. Ven. Pomnyun Sunim made eye contact with each participant and greeted them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Tomorrow, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim will go to the Toronto airport at 4 a.m. and take a plane to New York to continue the 18th 2023 Overseas Dharma Talk Tour in New Jersey.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Day of Sunim, Toronto(Sep 16, 2023)","post_excerpt":"\u201cHow should a practitioner look at someone who is being greedy?\u201d","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-day-of-sunim-torontosep-16-2023","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 02:11:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 07:11:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=16825","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":false,"total_page":1},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};
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When seeing someone else's anger, you need to understand, \u2018There must have been something that made that person angry.\u2019 However, telling that person, \u2018There is nothing to be angry about,\u2019 or \u2018When you're angry, look at yourself,\u2019 becomes a dagger to that person. The Buddha's teachings can be good medicine when applied to myself, but they become poison when applied to others. Therefore, the perspective of practice should always be applied to oneself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even if you talk extensively about your wife, I would not provide any advice on how your wife should behave. This is because there is a high likelihood that you would attempt to apply the Buddha's teachings to your wife. In that case, the Buddha's teachings can become a dagger. Speaking based on the Buddha's words can act as poison. Therefore, you should always apply the Buddha's teachings to yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, if certain teachings are constantly misapplied in a societal context for personal psychological healing, it can lead to a distortion of Buddhist teachings. \u2018Whether the world goes upside down or not, do not get involved. Only focus on your own mind,\u2019 if you Interpret it this way, Buddhism will turn away from social justice. This is why many criticisms are raised against Buddhism. However, the Buddha did not approach it this way. He spoke and did a lot of work on social justice issues such as gender discrimination, class discrimination, and wars. The side effects arise because the methods for healing inner wounds are repeatedly applied outwardly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, you must also apply the perspective of practice only to yourself. This perspective should not be applied to others. When your wife gets angry, you should empathize and say, \u2018My wife deserves to get angry. Honey, I'm sorry.\u2019 When you get angry, you should ask yourself, \u2018Why am I getting angry?\u2019 and see it as your own problem. You shouldn't try to receive an apology from the other person. They must be applied differently.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After finishing the conversation, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim provided some concluding remarks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen two different people get married and live together, they have different tastes, habits, and values. So, to avoid conflicts, you must acknowledge these differences. Acknowledging these differences is respecting the other person. Treating the other person like a king is not respect. It is understanding to have a mindset like, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective.\u2019 Understanding is love. Love without understanding is violence. You call it love, but most of it refers to desire. You try to do things your own way and call it love. If you acknowledge each other\u2019s differences and think, \u2018It could be that way from that person\u2019s perspective,\u2019 you won\u2019t get angry. However, this doesn't mean you have to agree with everything the other person says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A path without suffering even if breaking up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Since you got married by mutual agreement, there's no problem in getting divorced again by mutual agreement. It's not because of the sin from your past life. Just a moment ago, as I walked onto the stage, you all applauded and yelled, 'Venerable Pomnyun Sunim!' Even though you admire me like this, when this Dharma talk is over, we have to part ways. Does parting like this cause suffering? No, it doesn't. Even if a couple breaks up, break up like that. Even if your parents pass away, it's good to part like that. You like each other but you can break up. Why do we have to become enemies when we break up? If you and I part ways today, will we become enemies? On the contrary, just because we like each other, must we always meet? We can like each other even if we don\u2019t meet, right? Likewise, even you break up, there can be no suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The very essence of attachment lies in thoughts like, 'If I like someone, we must absolutely live together,' or 'If I dislike someone, we must absolutely stop living together.' It's not that there should be no dislikes or likes, but there should be no attachment that what you want should be achieved. The goal of Buddhism is not to become a person as emotionless as wood or stone. If you have desires, go ahead and pursue them. However, don't be distressed if things don't go as you want. The reason suffering arises is because of the attachment to the idea that 'things must be what I want.'<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Similarly, suffering does not arise because of a breakup. If you think you can break up, you won't feel any pain even if you break up. You all know that no matter how much you like Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, you can\u2019t live with him. That\u2019s why it doesn\u2019t hurt even if we break up. When you leave this hall, you might feel a bit sad, but as soon as you open the door and step outside, all regret disappears. In this way, you can break up without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just because you immigrated to Canada doesn't mean you\u2019ll automatically be happy. Just because you bring soybeans from Korea and transplant them to Canada doesn\u2019t mean they become red beans. To be happy, you must understand the principles of the mind and manage your mind. Managing your mind doesn't mean controlling it. It means that you are always aware of your state of mind. Then you can live without suffering. You can face death, separation, and failure without suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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